@Blossom you have brought up some really healthy discussion about the potential end of ivf without the take home baby. While I was catching up on the 180 odd posts (that I'd missed in less than 24 hours ladies!!) I felt a lot of what you were all saying resonated with me. There were a few tears and thoughts of "shizzle could I just give up?" "Damn my dp says that" "geez my dp does that" and "oh that's a good idea, maybe I should try that".
Anyway I was told also that online forums were a bad idea by my fs (whatever!!!!) and that I needed to think of an end date. I didn't listen to either of those pieces of advice and figure I'll know when I get there with quitting ivf and I definitely know this thread has been a better support than any of the staff at the ivf clinic could ever provide.
I'm thankful my dp is accommodating to my desire to have a child and does what he can to help but at the end of the day he is with me for the relationship only. He has his triplets and if I didn't have kids he wouldn't mind for him but he would be upset for me as he knows I want it so much. He is sweet but totally a boof head with trying to understand anything ivf.