Yes, I think you may have. Hmm Davinia.... I just yelled it out to DP and he says 'where do you come up with these things?' lol
I lived in Ireland for a good few years and knew a Davinia there. That's what made me think of it!
I wonder if DP will feel differently once you're a family of 4 and 3 of you have the same surname and the other doesn't. Or once he sees you give birth!!
@Summer I think I get you. My DP was never fussed on having kids. I won that battle. We had a son naturally when we were 29/30yrs of age. Our son was 18mths old when I went off the pill (haha the pill, remember when we used to take those), ttc #2, despite my DP not being fussed on another child. Our son is now 8. It has taken me years and years of arguing/negotiation to get to IVF. I told him I don't think I would forgive him ever if we never tried AC. Despite being financially comfortable, DP used the $ factor as his argument. Well hello bulk bill IVF, which left him with no argument at all.
I knew I would resent DP if he didnt compromise. Somehow we have done it & I hope you find it too...xx
Hi ladies. Nice to see everyone sharing here. I'll try to add mine now but not easy in iPhone!
My DH is a psychologist so very big on counseling. We have gone weekly to a couples counsellor for about 6 years. We don't go because we have problems (well not all the time It's mostly an hour every week for us to talk and has been hugely helpful.
We also went to a infertility group counseling session type thing once. There was a very upset lady there crying that it was so unfair she struggled to get pregnant and it was so easy for everyone else. It was very sad to see as I felt same. The counselor said that is their journey. Your journey is your journey. Would I liked to have had kids at 25 naturally and not know about this ivf lark? Of corse but i might have ended up with circumstances I could not handle then. I don't know. Did I have a great life with no kids traveling, working in USA and Europe. Yes. That I know for sure.
I feel for everyone out there with that ache to become a mum. I could not look at babies and kids or even until recently as I used to feel full of resentment.
We had an end planned that if this last cycle didn't work we would use whatever embryos were frozen (3) and that would be end of ivf journey. We are still on the adoption waiting list and will stay on that until we hear if they have a child for us.
Whenever I complain about something my DH is pretty good about bringing me back to present and reminding me that this is our journey. In between TTC/failed ivf cycles we have had some great times and amazing experiences. I know it's not the same maybe as having children but it is our journey and we did make the most of it. Good luck to everyone struggling. I have never seen such strong and supportive women here. It's amazing to see how everyone picks themselves back up after a BFFN and carries on. Hope for lots of happiness to everyone this year!!
I think this thread has super powers it moves so fast. Although im trying to move past my ivf journey @Blossom74 i still try to keep watch over you girls because i feel normal here. If im completely honest it is a financial no more for us atm because like @JulieMalooley said a 5% chance with oe after 7 cycles wears thin. When i cycled with @Charlie74 last time i finally managed to get my bfp however had a miscarriage on the 21st of December. Very crapy Christmas present. I didnt mention it here because of the time of year but now i know i can get my bfp. So now maybe SA and DE but can i find 15k? No i can not. Hubby has amazing quality and quantity and im a poor responder with low amh and crappy quality eggs. Where to from here?
Hi all lovely ladies sorry ive been absent but i promise i checking in. I was just so sad that I didnt want to bring you all down with me especially at Christmas. A huge congrats @Bongley
Oh @Infinity, I am so very very sorry hon. I think of you often and now to hear you've MC just breaks my heart.
Never, ever feel like you can't come here and offload love. This journey has so many ups and downs, and we are here for you for both of those It's not a matter of bringing people down, it's about acknowledging important things that are happening in your quest to have a baby and every moment is equally important, whether it's good or bad.
Sending you massive hugs. Be kind to yourself and please keep checking in love. Thinking of you.
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