Hmmm. Got an invoice in the mail today for $300 for some blood tests hubby had done. Just general cholesterol, iron levels etc. $300....
Unleash the beast.
I rang the Pathology and ripped them a new butt-h0le. I said that no-one told me there would be a cost, I don't have the money and I'm NOT paying it.
I don't reckon they've met an angry IVF woman like me before.
I got a credit on the account.
They won't forget me in a hurry
My two cents:
At the age of 40 when I started trying, I hadn't been with DP for long but made the decision that even if we didn't end up staying together, he would be a good father regardless, so I pressed on. Bad attitude perhaps, but he knew what he was getting into. I was always up front about all my feelings about the IVF and our relationship.
I had no end date but I was starting to get 'uncomfortable' about our ages (DP will be 46 by the time we have bubs). The money would have stopped me, but only when I couldn't get any more but I don't think I would have sold my house to keep going. Not on OE cycles anyway.
So.... the only thing that would have really put an end to my IVF journey is realising my OE cycles were a waste of money and if I hadn't been able to come to terms with DE.
If that was the case then my IVF journey would have stopped at 42 - when I was only getting one average embie for transfer - and then I just would have tried for a natural miracle. As I said earlier, the clinic told me I had about 5% chance of success, and I had about a 5% chance of falling pregnant naturally, so no more OE IVF. I never in my wildest dreams thought that I would so easily accept donor eggs, but I guess that's what happens when you decide you want something and are out of options.
One other thought, if your DH has had to fight so hard for his boys, maybe its in the back of his mind that he doesn't want to risk the same battle in the future, but on a different front.
Last edited by JulieMalooley; 08-01-2016 at 13:39.
My Natropath had me go gluten & diary free (he thought my immune system was over active, and cutting dairy & wheat helps settle that down). As for supplements, here's the list -
-Vitamin D (3x daily, BioMedica brand as it's about the only one not based in soy. And I was very low in vitamin D, which if you google, can prevent pregnancy)
-Ubiquinol 4x 150mg daily (BioCeuticals. He recommended 2, research I found suggested 4 to improve egg quality. I know there's no way you're meant to be able to do that, but I went from having 1 pretty ordinary looking egg, to having 5 make it to day 5, 4 frozen, and at least 2 of those with no genetic problems)
-magnesium 1/2 2x day
-Fish oil 2x day
-Bone Matrix Support (Eagle, which is calcium & some other stuff) 2x day
-Selenosol drops, 5 drops per day. This is liquid selenium & I took this until I was about 12 weeks.
-N-acetylcysteine powder, 1/2 scoop twice a day. (Orthoplex brand). Helps prevent miscarriage and as an antioxidant.
I took that until about 16 weeks. And all were from the Natropath, so they weren't cheap, but we're of a good quality.
When I went in for my last EPU, my FS couldn't believe the difference. I'd gone from getting 2-5 eggs (with half fertilising each time), to getting 8 eggs, 5 fertilised, all made day 5 & 4 to the freezer. He said for someone my age (a couple of months off 42) that was almost unheard of. I actually got OHSS. And I'd always been a bad responder. I was on all the supplements for 3-4 months beforehand. Am now 24 weeks with healthy little bub.
Hope this helps x
Last edited by Petal40; 08-01-2016 at 14:04.
Jeezuz!! @Petal40 thats very awesome. Gosh, thanks so much for that reply, I promise I'll copy and paste it so you don't have to type it ever again
I did go to a naturopath a few months before my BFP cycle and was gluten free and dairy free (for the most part) so thats interesting. We also had our best cycle yet so perhaps its worth thinking about. She just charged me an absolute arm and a leg and I got sh!tty that she left me at reception forking out nearly $500 (with no warning) for everything she had given me. So I never went back.
Has anyone found any benefits with losing weight at all? Im wondering/hoping that if I get down to a healthy weight BMI I might respond to the drugs better. I had lost a couple of kgs when i had my BFP cycle too but this time Im going to have lost a fair bit more than that. Ive seen stuff online about weight loss being good for people younger but that over a certain age studies show it doesn't do anything. Just wondered anecdotally tho..
thanks again Petal xx
any news @Precious40 ?
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