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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossom74 View Post
    @Summer, please don't tell me after you left him he went and shacked up with some floozy and had 3 kids?

    Gosh that irks me - you hear of it all too often. With marriage too. They say "I'm not ready" and then as soon as you walk out the door and a new woman is on the scene they are down on one knee.

    Grrr!
    Hehehehehehe! I actually have no idea what happened to him after we broke up, we have had zero contact and I know nothing about his life. It was a pattern with him though, he and his first wife had trouble conceiving and he refused to let her do IVF even though they were in their late twenties. I never knew that until we were involved for a couple of years and it horrified me. They had the money too, so it was purely a control and punishment thing. He was a sociopathic narcissist and a very dangerous man. We never even got to the trying stage, let alone IVF.

    My DH is completely opposite to that - I just realised how it might look when I wrote that above paragraph and my DH isn't wanting to pay for IVF, but it's not about control, his is more the confusion around the options and not being able to deal with my powerful grief and emotions and not really knowing what to do next, so he's made it a money thing instead of dealing with the real issues. I have no worries that he is anything like my ex!!!!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossom74 View Post
    Oh, good luck love. I hope your chat goes well and he is on board quickly. I know how important this is to you so if he is compliant that will make it much easier!

    Do you think you would get upset at the counselling session? You have been fighting against him with this (not literally, but mentally) for so long. I don't think I could go in and be calm about it. I'd either go off like an explosion or burst into tears. Or both! Cancerians are a bit on the emotional side, lol
    I have a Cancerian moon so I hear you with the emotions. Nope I'll be a blubbering mess the whole way through but at least hopefully I'll have someone there that when I start balling, he can say "Summer means that XXXXX" and I can just nod
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    Sigh.

    I hope we all get to see some light in 2016.

    I want nothing more than for us Over 40's to show the young 'uns how it's done, and fall one by one into vats full of sticky baby dust. And then we can all meet up, at a beautiful resort (or in my backyard, because lets face it - none of us will have any money left by then!) and introduce our gorgeous chubby babies to each other and drink vast amounts of wine and eat chocolate.

    (Blossom drifts away.....)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Summer View Post
    I have a Cancerian moon so I hear you with the emotions. Nope I'll be a blubbering mess the whole way the whole way through but at least hopefully I'll have someone there that when I start balling, he can say "Summer means that XXXXX" and I can just nod

    Yes, just like me hon. There is no rational when it comes to IVF with me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossom74 View Post
    Sigh.

    I hope we all get to see some light in 2016.

    I want nothing more than for us Over 40's to show the young 'uns how it's done, and fall one by one into vats full of sticky baby dust. And then we can all meet up, at a beautiful resort (or in my backyard, because lets face it - none of us will have any money left by then!) and introduce our gorgeous chubby babies to each other and drink vast amounts of wine and eat chocolate.

    (Blossom drifts away.....)
    It's a date! 😊

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    @Precious40 any news?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossom74 View Post
    Precious40, thinking of you today love. Any news?
    Yes, hope everything is ok @Precious40
    @Summer sounds like you have a plan, let us know what your DH says when you lay it on him! I think my partner would have been up for going to SA for the holiday alone!

    He is also the non-emotional kind of guy and it does make you feel alone but it must be very hard to get a grasp of whats going on when it isn't happening to you. He told me he shed a tear when our son was born which totally gobsmacked me. I think sometimes it happens all in a rush for them when the kid actually arrives. I felt like saying 'Well I did tell you there was a baby in there.....'

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    Well, today I have been using up some internet cheapies and seeing how watered down I can get my wee before it doesn't show up on a poas This is what happens when I work from home.

    Need to get that scan done next week so I can stop fretting!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blossom74 View Post
    Precious40, thinking of you today love. Any news?
    Thank you xx

    no news yet

    i think they'll send emails like they normally do
    only BFP and BFN warrants a phone call

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    In regard to knowing when to call it quits, when we changed clinics, our new FS said he would do 2 rounds with us. On paper I was a bad responder to stimms, had a low FSH count, and was 41. With his protocol & help from my Natropath, I definitely improved. But $$ is definitely always been an issue with us. We had to take out a loan to do IVF. So we were pretty much at the end of the $ after that 2 rounds anyway. That's when we got 4 day 5 embies in the freezer. And even though the first FET was a MMC, I guess it gave us hope this could really work for us. I was starting to think that at the end we would have this loan to pay off & nothing to show for it (except 10kg IVF weight for me!) Second FET was BFN, and at that point we decided that we wouldn't do any more stimm rounds, just transfer what we had in the freezer. It was a hard decision, but it felt good to have an end date, if that makes sense? It's a personal thing for us all.
    My DH is supportive, in a man way. I don't think he took the MMC as hard as I did. He only ever came into 2 transfers (out of 5) because it made him feel awkward. I have felt on some days like I've been going through this alone. And that's hard for anyone. You girls are all great, and the support on this forum is amazing. ❤️

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