FWIW 3 FET rounds at genea with a donor stim cycle must have cost us in the region of 14K including PGD testing, counseling and intralipids.
If we'd gone through RPA it would have cost less than 2K (unless there is some kind of donor cost I don't know about) but then there would have been the 4 month quarantine period, no access to immune treatment (but I guess you could go separately to Dr M) and longer waiting times.
I was regretting the costs at Genea having come from RPA but then with the two PGD normals failing perhaps the immune treatment was the thing to get me over the line and so was worth the extra cost in the end.
I think my donors costs were in the region of $1500. She hardly had to take any time off, just a few days for her and her partner so he could drive her to and from the EPU. Bless her.
Hope that helps someone.
A CT holiday would be a wonderful reward for all the years doing the IVF slog! That's why I don't feel guilty booking in for a massage at The Vineyard (this time I'm trying the 1.5 hr hot stone massage, $75) and some gorgeous meals there too, only about $15 for a main course.
I received an email lastnight from CFC and they want me to start down regulating in about 12 days (when AF arrives) for my 11 March transfer. I didn't think I'd be starting for about 6 wks. I think that means I'm going to be on the Evil Spray (Synarel) for a veeeery long time. I was so looking forward to one more IVF free cycle. Maybe the upside is that I can spend longer building my lining up??
Gosh I hope the HyCoSy comes back completely normal.
Ladies, I have a topic I would like to talk about but I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about it here. This is such a positive thread and I don't want to bring a downer on everyone, but I have been thinking about this for some time now and I would really appreciate other's opinions on it. If this is inappropriate for our board please don't hesitate to let me know and I'll remove my post....
So as you know we are about to embark on our next cycle of IVF. We have no idea what will come of it, obviously - We could get no eggs, we could get lots of eggs which fail to fertilise, we could get one or more eggs which do successfully fertilise and are transferred in only to fail, or we could get pregnant.
If we are granted financial assistance this cycle, and it doesn't result in a pregnancy, there is a small possibility we could either get the money together for one final attempt, or I might be able to access my super for a final shot.
It might be that this cycle is our last one and we have to recognise the end of our journey.
I am wondering if anyone on here ever contemplates the end of the journey? Do other people have a time or a date or a circumstance in their mind that would signal the end for them? Or is everyone of the opinion that only the arrival of a baby heralds the end?
Everywhere I read it seems people say "There is always a way" and "You could borrow money" and "There must be something you can sell" to keep the dream alive. But does anyone ever think about not going again? Of saying "Well, we did our best and sunk everything we had into it, but we can't go on?"
I sort of feel like I am the only person who's decision to go on or not to go on is governed solely by the mighty dollar. I hope to God I never have to make that final call and this is the cycle that results in my take home baby, but the little voice in the back of my mind whispers "But what if it isn't?"
Any advice or comments are welcome. And as I said, if this is not the appropriate place for this topic please let me know and I'll delete the post.
@Blossom I think we've all thought about it. And there must be sooo many singles/couples who have quite literally sent themselves broke or pushed themselves into severe debt and then had to draw the line, with no baby. It's just truly heartbreaking.
I remember when I went into IVF for the first time (7yrs ago) I was given the stat that only 50% of relationships made it through the IVF journey. So to walk away from IVF with your partner still by your side is a blessing in itself.
You've been pregnant. Your body will do it again. You will get your baby. Positive affirmations.
My 'end' has been moved several times.
Last edited by Tahli; 08-01-2016 at 08:42.
Yep, 2 cycles down and last night I was thinking "where do we stop?" "4 ? 8? I don't want to be in debt for years with this if it's just not going to work. I don't want to walk away if it might. It's that darn "might" that is the mind f&@$ . This has been in the back of my head. Thanks for posting this. X
It's an addiction just like any other....
Thank you @Tahli. I guess I am just having 'one of those days' where I'm not feeling 100% on top of things.
I know our relationship is one which has suffered from IVF. Not due to my husband's fault, but my own. I feel so focussed on what I want that I just don't seem to be able to have any feelings for anything/anyone else. I am numb to everything but the desire for a baby.
It sounds SO BAD but my husband has kids of his own and I am bitter about the position I find myself in. IVF brings up so many feelings and I struggle with the fact that one day the journey might end and he will still have his kids but I will have empty arms.
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