If he sees a psychologist as threatening or is worried your daughter will be labelled as "crazy" maybe start with a GP.
I don't know but even at 8, some of what is going on could be hormonal.
It could be any number of things but a GP might be a non threatening starting point.
You are not messing up your daughter by trying to help. Good luck!
I think some men have a natural propensity to dismiss issues for fear of not only facing there may be a problem but then having to deal with it. Your DD's behaviour does sound concerning and the fact that you can acknowledge that and be prepared to seek help is fantastic. But I think you have to do this without your DHs help or consent, at 8 she knows he is taking her side and it may well be clouding her view on whether or not she wants to talk to someone.
Stand tall, she will thank you one day, just maybe not at the moment.
Your daughter needs help. Book her in and keep your hubby in the loop as a courtesy. Invite him a long or give him the phone number of your daughters doc so they can explain to your hubby why she needs help.
I've been to a few parenting gigs/seminars and THE most important factor in building resilience in kids is parental role modeling (leading by example). If you or your hubby do things like say "of ffs" or "bloody hell" when you drop some milk on the freshly mopped floor then continue with getting yourselves help until you are able to deal with the milk spill with a "oh well at least it wasn't a carton of eggs that I dropped, now that would have been worse!".
Best of luck
I am sorry your DH is being difficult - sorry I'll rephrase to douche in this instance.
I would also suggest going to beyond blue and scouting out a good psych for kids/teens if you do not know one. You can call/email them as well.
I went to our GP in tears recently with 6yo DD having some ocd traits. I was put on s plan and seen within 2 weeks. I was happy to go private to be seen quicker but no need. 6 appts at no cost. 1st appt was just the parent then following was combo of parent and child.
Make a GP appt as soon as you can then you are one step closer to professional help.
Don't be ashamed. People see sleep specialists when babies don't sleep, or Drs when they sprain their ankle. We get advice from professionals in a field when we can't fix it ourselves. No difference in my mind. They are the experts, I felt pregnant, had a child and have been winging it since then 😜 xx
OP it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, have read the situation accurately and have your hubby's motives pegged (even if he isn't conscious of it).
Keep doing what your gut tells you to do and you will be right
An 8 year old shaking a knife at her mum and asking how to kill herself??
She needs to see someone asap - there is something going on with your daughter.
I hate to put it out there but either I wonder if either something has happened to her without your knowledge that's changed her behaviour and emotions or there's something going on with her brain mental health wise.
Either way none of her behaviour is normal for an 8 year and I would be very concerned as to what's going on.
Go see your GP and ask for a referral to a psychologist or psychiatrist that specialises with children.
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