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    If you are having sleep and feeding issues then it could be something as simple as him being hungry and tired.

    I know when my kids are tired they are awful!

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    If you are having sleep and feeding issues then it could be something as simple as him being hungry and tired.

    I know when my kids are tired they are awful!
    This is my ds (almost 2). He has also started to hit when thirsty recently. He is finding not being able to communicate very frustrating.

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    If I recall, I think your DS is the same age as mine (so 22 months, Feb baby)? He's a handful right now, very persistent and I have to stop him doing something about 20 times before he listens. He's started telling me 'no no no' when he's really upset or doesn't want to do something in particular and occasionally I get hit which I try really hard to not react to, I may just hold his hand back from me and say that hurts mommy. He had a massive tantrum on Wednesday where everything I tried (talking, cuddling, etc) made it worse, I finally just turned my back to him and ignored him (pretended I was reading but stayed in the same room rather than walked away) and he eventually calmed down and came and sat next to me completely fine.

    A friend has a little boy the same age that we play with a lot, he hits her, himself and my DS constantly (I'm not really bothered as he's not actually hurting my DS, he thinks he's playing, and I feel he doesn't actually understand) she makes a massive deal about it, time out (even if we're in public) forcing him to apologize, etc. she's hit his hand a couple times as well. I genuinely think he keeps doing it BECAUSE she makes such a big deal about it, any attention is good attention at this age and I think when she hits his hand she's showing him that you get your way by hitting. At this age I really don't think they understand about apologizing or what a time out is for so I think doing those things are a bit pointless, they have no impulse control and aren't doing anything with intent, ya know?

    I don't really have any advice, I totally understand that it's stressful when they're aggressive, especially with two, and I know you've had such a rough time with his health and sleeping but I think the best approach is to do your best to stay as calm as possible and just remove and distract him from whatever seems to be triggering him to be aggressive at that point in time. I follow a few parenting sites on Facebook that often post articles about how to handle hitting, (Positive Parenting and The Danish Way of Parenting) are the main ones that come to mind, I'll try to find their links to see if they have some tips you haven't tried ☺️. Good luck!
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    I can't get into much detail because I'm about to go to a xmas lunch party but i had huge issues with my son from age 15m. Similar to what you described and it happened at home, parties and kinder etc. then school. He is 6 now and has been diagnosed with adhd, speech receptive delay (he speaks very well), social difficulties and is in the process of being diagnosed with ASD (been assessed by psych, just need paed to diagnose.)
    Sorry to scare you.
    I just had no idea about these and wish someone suggested them before while I was struggling with him at kinder and then at school.
    I'll chat properly later.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    If you are having sleep and feeding issues then it could be something as simple as him being hungry and tired.

    I know when my kids are tired they are awful!
    This.
    To me it sounds like he could be hungry, thirsty or tired.
    He could also be bored or just wanting your attention.

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    My first thought is hunger and being tired. What have the specialists said about these issues? What can be done to help poor bub?

    My secondary thought is boredom. With only a couple of books and toys - unless you are leaving the house for 2 excursions per day (playgroup, library, kids craft) bub could very well be bored. Kids need lots of activities to keep them entertained.

    Another factor to consider is discipline - kids learn by example. If parents are frustrated, yelling and hitting - it's likely the kids will mirror that behavior. Do you have an avenue for stress release? Parenting is bloody hard and there's nothing like a day off here and there to reset ourselves. Behavioral seminars for kids might also have some useful
    Hints and tricks (there's no shame in seeking a helping hand - I am keeping my eyes out for a course that will help me with my eldest).

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    I've found my DS gets a bit aggressive if he's bored or wants my attention. He knows if he hits or kicks me that he'll get a reaction, therefore my attention. I've found if I spend about 5-10 mins every 45 mins or so playing with him and getting him started on an activity, he'll quite happily pay and there's no aggression.

    How about adding to the toys with some wooden puzzles, a shape sorter, a tea set? With only 2 activities to choose between he may need a bit more stimulation?

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    Agree with BigRedV. He sounds hungry and tired. DS2 is the Devil himself when he's tired. I also agree with others he may be bored. Books are amazing, as is lego, but not all toys are 'junk'. Dolls or action figures teach them imagination, they practice communication skills. Cars in the sand pit can expend some of that energy boys (my boys lol) get. You could get him a musical instrument set from big w. You can get maracas, a tambourine, castanet etc. They will teach him rhythm, a love of music. Jigsaws are excellent for spatial ability.

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    We go out everyday. Park, bikes down the park or bike track. The river. The reason why we don't have the toys is because they literally wouldn't play with them they just like being outside? And I was like wtf other kids play wth toys for hours I thought it wasn't normal!

    Yet if we are at other people house they will. They aren't really interested in sitting still for ages either.

    We goto swim centre, play centre to. We have just had to cancel child care because of our financial situation but kids goto my mums 2 X a week instead and do things so they do heaps.

    His hearing test was ok but she soda she can't tell if it's out of one ear or if he has processing problems. We don't see any doctors anymore really they have said he's miracle baby etc but I'm really worried about his attitude etc it probably could be from my anger as I've had a crap couple years but I do see a shrink. He drinks heaps and his sleeps improved a bit but still has water over night (1 now)

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    He doesn't eat anything :/ well he does but bananas, chicken, steak and yoghurt. He's still on a couple of feeds during night.

    We have feeding issues, sleeping issues I was thinking he was autistic but he talks and makes eye contact etc
    Just wanted to say that if you have a feeling that there is something else there, autism is a spectrum, & children dont always show all of the traits. A child can be on the autism spectrum but still have good speech and eye contact. Not that I think thats what your DS has, its really impossible to speculate from here,but dont rule it out completely because he doesnt have every trait. Perhaps seeing a paed or a child psych specifically about the behaviour would be helpful?


 

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