+ Reply to Thread
Page 3 of 5 FirstFirst 12345 LastLast
Results 21 to 30 of 41
  1. #21
    Join Date
    Feb 2015
    Posts
    2,061
    Thanks
    2,314
    Thanked
    1,392
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    yes ditto. it's our first and we're fortunate enough to be able to buy everything brand new ourselves. I'm not accepting broken down crap when our bub deserves the best!
    Hehehe new parents.... I thought the same, I brought 95% of stuff new. But now after spending $500 on sleeping bags in the hunt for one my DD likes (oh she hates all of them so we are using a $10 target sheet), a $300 swing that she used for two weeks, etc, etc I'm now seeing the benefits of good quality second hand stuff....!

  2. The Following 5 Users Say Thank You to babyno1onboard For This Useful Post:

    amyd  (10-12-2015),GirlsRock  (10-12-2015),JustJaq  (10-12-2015),Little Miss Sunshine  (10-12-2015),ScubaGal  (10-12-2015)

  3. #22
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    409
    Thanks
    241
    Thanked
    133
    Reviews
    0
    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    oh that's awful :/

    my mil just gets stuff from best & less, Kmart etc. I recognize it all because I go there myself so regularly 😂

    her tastes are just very much the obvious, baby blue everything for a boy, goes for those little clown collar rompers etc.

    I've kept it all but it can be used as sleepwear. my bub is not stepping out in a terry cloth onesie 😂
    Haha i work at kmart, my kids wardrobes contain about 70% kmart clothes!!
    Mil doesn't buy stuff from anywhere i recognize. None of it has any labels. She has no idea about sizing which is surprising as she had young kids once.
    Luckily because she's not around much lately i haven't had to deal with it.
    The last things she bought ds1, even hubby said there was no way we would be dressing ds1 in that, it was so ugly and smelly. He threw it in the bin.
    Our ds1 is in size 2 - she brought around size 5 stuff. I'm pretty sure it's stuff she gets from people they know ... the kind of people we would never associate with if you get my drift.
    One time she bought over a playmat she got from her hairdressser. It was stained and stank. We never used it.
    They are simple people who live very frugally. They have plenty of money from "extra curricula activities" plus no mortgage etc. But they spend alot of money on alcohol.
    They are forever buying stuff we don't need. We live in a townhouse, not alot of room but instead of gifting with giftcards like we say when they ask, they buy useless crap we don't need or have any room for. I don't mean to sound selfish. But i do not want second hand crap from their druggie friends. I actually value my families health and wellbeing.

  4. #23
    Join Date
    May 2007
    Location
    Gippsland
    Posts
    14,671
    Thanks
    1,209
    Thanked
    3,845
    Reviews
    2
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 postsAmethyst Star - 5,000 postsEmerald Star - 10,000 posts
    I have a friend who occasionally gives me a massive garbage bag full of her DS's hand me down clothes. I never use any of it because for starters her DS is 13 but is obese, so it's all at least 5 sizes bigger than our boys' clothes. Some of it is basically small adult size so we would have to store it for several years. Which would be fine, but none of it is our boys' taste in clothes, it's all just cheap crap.

    It's actually annoying because I then have to take this huge bag to the op shop. I feel a bit ungrateful, but I don't have the heart to refuse it so I always just say thanks and take it.

    However, we have moved to the country now so if she offers when I'm in town I may just say I'll have a look with her standing there and after looking through it all I can hand it back on the spot and tell her thanks but no thanks. Then she can take it to the op shop. My sister did this with someone who kept giving her unwanted hand me downs, and that person got the hint pretty quickly. Never offered them to my sister again.

    I generally only pass on really nice stuff to people. Like if one of my kids has grown out of a nice designer clothing item (was usually a gift, I rarely buy it myself), I will offer it to my sister whose DD is 8 months younger than mine. Any other stuff goes straight to the op shop.

  5. #24
    Join Date
    Feb 2012
    Location
    Brisbane North
    Posts
    4,460
    Thanks
    1,581
    Thanked
    1,802
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    my SIL gave me her broken portacot, cot and high chair. Cot had missing bolts... asked about them and the reply was ''oh just get your hubby to bung some screws/nails into it.. ''... um no. gave me a black looking pram.. which when i took the covers off to soak everything, - water turned black... and lo & behold it wasn't even a black pram. it was a shade of navy blue. lol.

    threw the whole lot in the bin. another friend gives me her son's clothes that are too small... um he's 7 years older than my own son! as if im going to keep them for that long, plus they are so old it's almost faded. from now on if it's useless, it goes in the bin and i don't feel bad about it.

  6. #25
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Posts
    4,670
    Thanks
    1,961
    Thanked
    2,573
    Reviews
    6
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by gamermummy View Post
    I received OP shop shoes from someone for my first child, I put them in the cupboard and 'forgot' about them. But in saying that, I bought some really awesome coo.kie monster shoes too and put them away and actually did forgot about them and now they're too small I don't like secondhand stuff either. There's no point with how cheap you can get new stuff now.
    For $3 I can buy a Kmart tshirt that will last one child or for $3 I can buy secondhand pumpkin patch etc that looks heaps better and will last 3 kids. I know what I'm spending my money on.

  7. The Following 7 Users Say Thank You to amyd For This Useful Post:

    Bexta  (12-12-2015),Gentoo  (10-12-2015),Happymum2  (10-12-2015),JustJaq  (10-12-2015),LoveLivesHere  (10-12-2015),MummyBic  (10-12-2015),Soon2be4  (10-12-2015)

  8. #26
    Join Date
    Mar 2012
    Location
    Perth
    Posts
    860
    Thanks
    949
    Thanked
    605
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    In th defence of second-hand stuff, you can get some really good quality, good condition durable used baby items on Gumtree and BSS pages. I'll admit that used clothes are a bit hit and miss, and I've turfed a lot of ones I've been given. But I've gotten some great items for my DSs, like swings and toys and furniture in fantastic condition.

    So to answer a few PPs- why would you consider buying or using second-hand when you can afford to buy new? Because you can save heaps of money and reduce your environmental footprint, and be a more responsible consumer.
    Last edited by Gentoo; 10-12-2015 at 10:21.

  9. The Following 13 Users Say Thank You to Gentoo For This Useful Post:

    atomicmama  (10-12-2015),BluePixie  (10-12-2015),BornToBe  (11-12-2015),GirlsRock  (10-12-2015),GreenMama  (10-12-2015),JustJaq  (10-12-2015),LoveLivesHere  (10-12-2015),Mod-Nomsie  (10-12-2015),Pearlygirl  (10-12-2015),ScubaGal  (10-12-2015),smallpotatoes  (11-12-2015),Soon2be4  (10-12-2015),TreeGirl  (10-12-2015)

  10. #27
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    1,600
    Thanks
    417
    Thanked
    826
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    I've been given a huge amount of hand me down clothes. I don't mind hand me downs if they are still in good condition but some of this stuff is 2 or 3 sizes bigger than what ds is wearing and were hand me downs on the previous kid. By the time I get them they have been through 2 or 3 kids already and they are not in good condition, plus are way too big and I'm not going to keep used clothes for 2+ years. I hardly ever use the clothes, just say thanks and chuck it out. I don't have the heart to be rude about it.

    We bought some of DS nursery furniture second hand off gumtree. We got an $800 cot for $150 because she just needed it gone. I have friends that spent hundreds or thousands on new nursery furniture and crack the sh!ts when their kid chews on the cot (big surprise, that's what they do). Personally I'd rather spend decent $$ on the next set of furniture that he will be using for a long time in comparison (and not chewing on by then!).

  11. #28
    Join Date
    Nov 2013
    Posts
    1,180
    Thanks
    1,414
    Thanked
    748
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 posts
    Quote Originally Posted by Gentoo View Post

    So to answer a few PPs- why would buy consider buying or using second-hand when you can afford to buy new? Because you can save heaps of money and reduce your environmental footprint, and be a more responsible consumer.
    Absolutely. I love hand me down stuff, and finding good quality second hand stuff. We had the luxury of being able to afford all new stuff for bub - but I chose second hand where I could. I only really bought new stuff where it's really recommended for safety reasons that you buy it new - eg car seat, cot mattress. Otherwise, I looked second hand first.

    Babies generally use their 'stuff' for such a short time, and use it so lightly, that you can get really good quality second hand stuff for next to nothing. It's great!

    Take Grobags for example. $80 or so new, but you can get really good condition second hand ones for $20. Give em a good wash, and they're good to go. I know where my money's going.

    Travel cots are a great example. Lots of people buy them and hardly use them - you can get absolutely great second hand ones for next to nothing.

    Bags of hand me downs can be hit and miss, sure. We got bags of hand me downs from two friends, and most of the stuff was great. Sure, some stuff we gave to Vinnies, and some stuff just wasn't our taste, but most of it we kept and use happily. Our friends get a real kick out of seeing their kids' stuff getting reused too.

    It goes without saying too of course that not everyone has the luxury of being able to choose between second hand and new stuff for their bub. Baby stuff can be sooo expensive, and comments like 'I bought new because my bub deserves the best' might not be making some people feel all that great, if you know what I mean...

  12. The Following 8 Users Say Thank You to JustJaq For This Useful Post:

    amyd  (10-12-2015),atomicmama  (10-12-2015),BluePixie  (10-12-2015),Gentoo  (10-12-2015),GirlsRock  (10-12-2015),Happymum2  (10-12-2015),MsViking  (11-12-2015),smallpotatoes  (11-12-2015)

  13. #29
    Join Date
    May 2014
    Posts
    2,673
    Thanks
    1,006
    Thanked
    2,414
    Reviews
    0
    Achievements:Topaz Star - 500 postsAmber Star - 2,000 posts
    As first time parents we bought everything new...but were smart and bought furniture they could grow in to and would last. As a result we have all the furniture but the change table still in use (the cot converted to a lounge so we kept that). But things like swings, playmats etc. second hand is great!
    AsI think your perception changes once you've had a few kids. Clothing kids is so expensive, I am always grateful if someone else buys my kids clothes. And I'd take the 'I'm a bit overbearing because I am just so excited about my future grandchild' type of MIL over what I have any day. I'd just put some ground rules in place, but having grandparents as willing babysitters is awesome.

  14. #30
    Join Date
    Apr 2015
    Posts
    409
    Thanks
    241
    Thanked
    133
    Reviews
    0
    Just to clarify, i have nothing against second hand furniture if it's come from a clean smoke free home.
    I chose to buy everything new (and it was ALL on special so i got great deals on everything) because i knew I'd be using it all again for the next baby. So i guess technically for ds2 it is second hand.
    I'm a bit of a control freak when it comes to safety so for stuff like cot, pram and car seats i bought new so i knew they were in best possible condition.
    Ds2 is using ds1's old convertible car seats, bassinet, cot and pram, most of his clothes and i plan on using the smaller shoes again too (ds1's feet grew fast so they were hardly worn).

    The problem with the stuff mil kept giving us is i knew it had come from people who smoke, drink and/or use drugs on a daily basis. I refuse to have that crap around my kids.

    I have taken hand me downs from my bestie that had been previously used from her 2 sons. SOME of it was ok, but most had holes and were very well worn out. Again, the snob in me doesn't want my kids running around in ratty clothes. That's just me and i won't apologize for wanting better than that for my kids. Kids clothes at work are so cheap i just grab one or two pieces every week or two. The cheap kmart shirts and shorts are perfect for daycare because if they get paint or anything on them it's not a big deal. I don't buy fancy clothes for him because at his age EVERYTHING he wears gets something on it. Whether it's paint, pen, dirt or food stains. Boys will be boys after all!


 

Similar Threads

  1. Crap xmas presents - vent here
    By RmumR in forum Family & Friends
    Replies: 223
    Last Post: 07-01-2016, 20:59
  2. Star Wars crap- thoughts?!?
    By Little Miss Sunshine in forum General Chat
    Replies: 25
    Last Post: 21-11-2015, 20:51
  3. I don't enjoy being a mum
    By rollercoaster2012 in forum General Parenting Tips, Advice & Chat
    Replies: 18
    Last Post: 30-12-2014, 18:51

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
free weekly newsletters | sign up now!
who are these people who write great posts? meet our hubbub authors!
Learn how you can contribute to the hubbub!

reviews
learn how you can become a reviewer!

competitions

forum - chatting now
christmas gift guidesee all Red Stocking
Mother and Baby Shop
Save $$$ during our Christmas Sale Mother and Baby Shop
Great prices on Schoenhut kids pianos, toys, baby clothing as well as big brands like Pigeon, NUK, Cherub Baby and many more. Sale starts on 1 November 2016 and ends on the 27 December 2016. Hurry! Place your order today!
sales & new stuffsee all
True Fairies
True Fairies is the first interactive website where children can engage and speak with a real fairy through the unique webcam fairy portal. Each session is tailored to the child, and is filled with enchantment and magic.
Visit website to find out more!
featured supporter
Sudocrem / Infacol
Sudocrem® Healing Cream is a soothing emollient cream which aids and assists in the management of nappy rash, eczema, abrasions, wounds and minor skin irritations. Infacol Wind Drops are an effective method of treating wind in infants.
gotcha
X

Pregnant for the first-time?

Not sure where to start? We can help!

Our Insider Programs for pregnancy first-timers will lead you step-by-step through the 14 Pregnancy Must Dos!