I know everyone is pro over stimulation Theory here. I feel that 90% of the time, my DS crying is stomach related because I can hear him fart and reflux coming up his throat. Sure, at 7w mark, he was at his peak of crying without any reason. That I believe is due to over stim. We just moved to a new house and my mom left. She was here helping. Something very new to him. We don't have visitor so I can't see why there is over stim in my case. I don't even do tummy time anymore. No playgroup. He opens his eyes ang cries. He finished eating and cries. I spend most of the time soothing him to sleep. Overtired. Probably the other cause. So what do they call tummy related crying?
If bub is upset after eating he might need more burping.
Bub might just be crying just because he wants to be held.
I think my Bub certainly has colic as well. He does cry for no good reason part of the time.
I think it's only normal to want to find an explanation for the crying so we can do something to fix it. However i think often this causes a lot of stress and sometimes it's better just to accept what the medical professionals say about the fact that they havnt been able to prove baby is in pain and the crying is just a way for baby to relieve stress. I know I spent weeks thinking my baby was upset due to a milk balance and did all sorts to try and solve the problem, even contemplating giving up bf. In the end nothing made much difference and the crying did stop at 12 weeks like they say.
Obviously this is not the case for every baby and some do need medical treatment for underlying conditions so it's always best to get a full check up. (I paid to see a paed who told me everything was fine, no sign reflux etc and at least it put my mind at rest.)
Good on you for sticking to it.
I think the over whelming feelings babies have as they go through those changes at 6-12 weeks probably are pretty uncomfortable for them. But you make it through.
I know I've tried all sorts of things to stop him crying. Changing formulas, even trying lactose free formula! Every homeopathic potion available for "colic", all the infacol, infants friend, marina mixture type products. I could go on.
The only things that really stop him crying are being held/rocked, sometimes the white noise, going outside in the fresh air, and the one i hate - letting him cry for a bit. It's something my dh has said all along - sometimes babies just need to cry. Funnily enough our dr said the same thing when i first went a month ago about my concerns. But stubborn me was convinced he was in pain.
I've spent so much money trying different formulas and potions, and more than likely caused bub more distress because of it. I've had immense guilt about not being able to breastfeed for longer. We will keep persevering and hopefully very soon he will settle down. He'll be 12 weeks on monday .... the optimast in me keeps picturing dory saying "just keep swimming!". I will do this!! Just keep going. I will let myself cry when i need to, and know it's ok to cry, not a sign of failure. Sometimes baby just needs to cry. if the dr has said this after multiple visits over the last month, i will start listening!!
Good luck to mumma's going through the same thing, i hope it gets better for all of us real quick!!
I find with dd2 (6 weeks) if she has a good few hours of fussing and crying in the evening she sleeps a lot better at night. Last night she was very unsettled and didn't go down until 10pm. Then she did a 5 hour sleep for me, quick feed and down for another 3.5 hours.
I no longer try to fight it with all the lotions and potions, I just settle down on the couch and put something on tv (preferably with subtitles) and hold her whilst she gets it out of her system. If she gets to much I pop her in the swing for awhile and regroup.
It stresses me out less than trying to figure out what/if anything is wrong and just ride with it
Eta it is tough during daylight hours if she starts her fussing as I have dd1 still to attend to
Last edited by Little Miss Sunshine; 10-12-2015 at 08:14.
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