Oh dear @gingermillie . I'm sorry it's all gone pear shaped again! I'm a bit confused tho.. Has she moved from the spare room to her own room? What's the difference for her in terms of environment? We're you in the spare room with her?
So, I'm learning new things every day about my darling baby and parenting. We are in the UK for Xmas and as soon as she got here she came down with her first sickness that turned into bronchiolitis. It's been horrendous. Poor mite could barely breathe. Anyways, she was so sick that I had her in bed with me ( in her cot in Oz ) and DH was on the sofa bed. What I've noticed about cosleeping at 6 months is that she just falls asleep so peacefully next to me and sleeps for longer. That wasn't news for nighttime but for naps we're super short on space so I've been lying down next to her 4 times a day and she falls asleep with a quick feed and no fuss. We've had no rocking chair and she's too heavy to rock so a bit of a settle in the Ergo if needed and then a transfer to the bed and boom! Out like a light. SOOO easy.
My new theory is to stop all of societies pressures and follow nature.. We have all the tools and it's just taken being out of the home environment for me to tap into them.
I've also noticed that if her awake time has been particularly stimulating then she does self settle with a little cry to transition to sleep. I was lying next to her and she was tired but not quite there. She cried on and off for about 5 mins while I was lying next to her and then fell asleep peacefully.
It's fascinating to watch.
So basically DH and I are rethinking the whole settling/sleeping. If I spend 4 hours a day at home in Oz trying to put her down for naps but here she just goes down easily then I need to scrap all the 'must be in her cot and put her self to sleep' pressures and go with what baby needs.
Trust me, I was NEVER going to be a co sleeper but even DH has to admit that since we've been in this tiny apartment in the UK she's settled so much easier and we're all getting a lot more sleep!
I may do a hybrid when I go home of all day naps in our bed ( and as soon as she's asleep I roll out ) and the bed time sleep transferred to her cot once she's asleep.
I've also realised that no two babies/households are the same and it's silly of me to hold her against some benchmark. We all just have to do what we feel comfortable with and what works!
The irony is I looked down my nose at attachment parenting and cosleeping when I was pregnant and well.. Here we are.. The little angels made me eat my words!