Hi all, as many of you would have realized I haven't really taken to motherhood like a duck to water. Combine my ineptitude with a 'difficult' baby (sorry darling girl but you are!) and 5 months in I'm still swimming. Not drowning at least but still trying to keep my head above water. I need help.
So some background miss A is 5 months + 1 week. She was 1 month prem and only 2.6kg at birth. Now a whopping 6.9kg exclusively breast fed. She has reflux and is on 10mg losec suspension daily. Last week I dropped it to 8mg to see if we could wean off but within a few days she was back to super-grumpy-can't-be-put-down baby so upped it and she's happy again. Went through 4-6 weeks of reflux hell until she started losec.
She sleeps in her cot and is easy to settle to sleep. Hard part is keeping her asleep. We use white noise, no dummy (she refused thank god for small mercies). I'm in a bit of a mess about her sleeping and feeding. I've always 'offered' to feed rather than going by time or her demanding. So I'll generally offer twice in each awake period to try and feed her up to help her nap. This results in her feeding every 1.5-2hrs during the day. I wonder if it would be better to start stretching day feeds, larger feeds less often instead of smaller more frequent feeds?
She was sleeping well at night waking 1-2 times. One night she even went 12hrs wow. But usually she was waking between 12-2 and 4-5am. Past few weeks she's waking every 3hrs overnight to be fed and it's starting to take its toll on me. She doesn't like co-sleeping so that's not a solution. Is there any way I can get her back to having one big stretch of sleep? She was consistently doing 6-8hrs then 4-5 and now it's 3hrs. Ugh.
Next issue is catnapping. I have a feeling this is all feeding into each other. Last week she had ONE nap for the whole week that was longer than 45 minutes. Combine the night wakings with her not sleeping during the day and I'm getting a very short fuse. I've tried resettling for half an hour (just gets me so wound up and frustrated), leaving her to settle back to sleep. Longer wake times, shorter wake times. She self settles to sleep most times so it's not an issue of being fed or rocked to sleep but nothing seems to work. Incidentally she's just woken after 40 minutes. Grrrr.
We don't have a 'routine' she naturally wakes between 7-7:30 and goes to bed 6:30-7pm with shower, feed, bed at night. Her awake times are generally 2hrs. Due to the catnapping there's no set nap times. Do I need to start a more rigid routine?
She's not on solids. Not ready yet - I've tried a couple of times. She's only 19 weeks by due date so I'm not fussed will keep trying over the next month or two.
The other issue is she absolutely refuses a bottle. I feel like giving her to someone for a week to sort all this out then getting her back 😢
So please, any advice on what to do with her day feeding schedule, catnapping and reducing night feeds?? I'm not a cry it out person but by golly at her third wake up overnight I did think about it 😬 I'm meant to go back to work 1 day a week from home in 2 months. I can't fathom that with this tiredness. Thanks lovely hubbers 😘