It does sound excessive however it also breaks my heart that he isn't a part of their every day lives now and I really really want the girls to have that. It's so hard. We are 400km apart so the phone seems really important. However, at the times when he doesn't bother i wonder if it matters to me far more than it matters to him! I think I'm still getting in my head that we aren't a 'family' any more so it seems so strange to me that he doesn't know day to day happenings
Other ideas for staying in touch may be for the girls to draw him some pictures and post them / skype calls / emailing photos of day to day life.
@NAT2561 your last post really spoke to me.
It's hard to adapt to that way of thinking that suddenly you're no longer sharing everything. It took me a lot of time.
I've also pushed really hard for my ex to see DS and speak to him regularly. It's not anywhere near as often as I would like, and over time I've come to terms with the fact that I'm not actually responsible for their relationship. All I can do is be open and facilitate it wherever possible, not block opportunities and the rest is on him.
If your ex is not maintaining twice a day contact then that is likely going to cause friction and tension in an already difficult time. I'd focus on getting him to commit to something and stick to it - you can build from there.
SSecret Squirrel (30-12-2015)
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