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    Hi all, my son is 3.5 years old and toilet training is just not happening..... I'm at my wits end and I have NO idea why and what's happening with him. He has all the right things. I've tried everything I can think of and what I've seen online.
    He knows why we go there, he knows when his doing a dirty nappy but not a wee.
    I'm grateful for any advice.

    P.S extremely stressed

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    My first two kids were like this. In the end i had to get a egg timer, and every 15 mins for 2 days (my god it was a headache) id put them on the toilet for 3 mins. And id repeat (gave myself a migrane) no wees or poos in your nappy/pants, you go in the toilet. Many tears later they both just suddenly realised that thats the way it goes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GlitterFarts View Post
    My first two kids were like this. In the end i had to get a egg timer, and every 15 mins for 2 days (my god it was a headache) id put them on the toilet for 3 mins. And id repeat (gave myself a migrane) no wees or poos in your nappy/pants, you go in the toilet. Many tears later they both just suddenly realised that thats the way it goes.
    I did this too!!

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    Every 15min? Geez
    My issue is his stopped going today. Totally refused and his everything in his pants and I mean everything. Oh the wonders.

    His in a nappy now..... I just couldn't take it. I have a lot on my plate and yeh. I have patience for this, but him refusing, screaming and hitting is just not on.

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    Yea but you only do it for a few days. Then make it 30min etc.

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    My daughter cracked the ****s at us when we tried to make her go every 15 minutes, we ended up asking every 10-15 minutes but making her sit on the toilet every 1-1.5 hours. If she flat out refused that's when we would say "you can have a coin for your piggy bank if you do". We only had to use the bribe method a few times until it clicked for her when a wee was coming and could tell us. I know some people have used stickers/stamps/food treats

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    Personally I have a very relaxed approach to it, to me he's just not ready, he will be eventually just not right now...
    The frustration and stress put on the issue is probably not helping either. Take a break and try again later, you might find he'll be more proactive if it's up to him.

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    My DD IS 3.9mo and I have only just succeeded in getting her to wee on the toilet this week. We have tried and failed I don't know how many times this year. She used to scream at me if I asked her if she wanted to go on the toilet. This went on every time we tried! I tried everything - books for her on going to the toilet, bribery, stickers etc etc. nothing worked. She wasn't even upset when she would wet herself.

    I read on here about a book "Ready, Set, Go! Toilet time" and a few mums were swearing by it, so I bought it. Was $13 so I figured it was worth a shot! It arrived Friday, we read the book, put up the sticker chart and she has only had 2 accidents since Sat! She is now wanting to go on her own and doesn't want me there. Still working on No 2's, but going from nappies FT to doing everything herself in 6 days is amazing! Maybe give it a shot? I'm not sure the book solved our issues - it was more likely a case of the right thing at the right time, but it worked for my very resistant little girl.

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    I think every child will be different with TT. When I was tt both mine I asked them regularly if they needed to go. I didn't leave the house much for about a week when we first started so that we could just focus on getting it done. But again if they just aren't ready, forcing them could make matters worse. If it has got to a point where your child is getting distressed I say give it a break for a week and try again when stress levels have come down for you both

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    This is how I trained my DD. Take the nappy off as soon as she woke up, put in undies straight away. Have the potty out in the main room and have them sit on it as often as possible (all day long if you can). Read them stories about potty training whilst they are sitting on it. Let them watch TV whilst sitting on it. Give them lots of liquids to encourage a wee. They are 100% going to have accidents, all over the house. Be prepared for it. My DD did a poo on the tiles under the dining table one day while training, lol. It happens and isn't the end of the world.
    It's a pain in the as$, it really is hard and stressful, but persevere and don't give up and don't put a nappy on that bum until bed time.
    Get one of those toilet seats for toddlers, we have the one with rails and a little step.
    Good luck. It will happen!


 

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