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    Hi mums!
    This issue has got my head in a muddle this past week as my best friend brought it up the other night and we got into a tiff about it and now she is not speaking to me at all...
    My 6.5-year-old daughter has been wearing a pull-up at night to prevent her from wetting her bed. Please note, she was fully toilet trained, day and night, by the time she was about 2.5... Then 1.5 years ago I was pregnant and I think that's when the problem started. I must have turned a blind eye for a little while, just let her do the pull-ups, as it was an incredibly challenging first year with my new baby but recently it's become more of an issue...
    So I don't really know where to go from here. I have thought about waking her in the night, but the problem is that then my baby will wake up too as I co-sleep with him, and then he (and consequently I) might not go back to sleep again. I've tried not putting the pull ups on her but honestly, the amount of washing is something I definitely don't have time for in my already hectic life!!
    My friend got mad the other day because she thinks my daughter should be washing her own sheets but I think that's going too far, and she also mentioned pull-ups being bad for the environment (which by the way I totally agree with).
    What should I do? Anyone been through anything similar? Please help!!

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    Your girlfriend needs to shut her big fat trap. Sorry but as a mum of a long term bed wetter (teenager) this attitude makes my blood boil.
    Your daughter isn't doing this on purpose so she disentangle need punishment she needs support and understanding.
    Sending you huge hugs.

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    I haven't experienced this personally, but just wondering, have you exhausted all possible physical causes? That would be my first option, I think.

    Also, I'm a primary school teacher and just wanted you to know this is far more common than you think. Hang in there and don't listen to our friend. How is punishing a 6 year old for something that happens in her sleep a natural consequence?

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    I honestly don't think that being dry overnight is something that you can "train". The child simply isn't getting the signal to wake when their bladder is full.
    Because your DD was previously night trained, I'd go the GP as a first port of call just to rule out any underlying physical causes.
    I know with friends that nothing (intervention wise) is really recommended until kids are seven but it might be worth looking at the bedwetting alarm mattresses (one friend had success with this method).
    As for your friend? Pfft! Just ignore!!

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    She definitely doesn't need punishment! This happened to a family member - they wouldn't wake when they needed to go. The thing that worked was a device that has an alarm when wet so he woke up as soon as he wet the bed. He was about 6 too.

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    Thanks for your support, everyone ❤️ My friend is a very loving person, and was implying the washing of sheets could be done in a way that wasn't punishing... but also said she thinks my daughter does it on purpose and I have to admit, sometimes I do wonder! This is really embarrassing to admit but it shows how much of a tough year it's been - one afternoon, to my horror and whilst she was sitting in the dentists chair, I noticed she had left her pull up on ALL DAY 😁 Anyway, that episode aside, I do realise that unlike me she is an incredibly heavy sleeper, doesn't wake at all in the night. I've heard of those alarm things and happen to be going to a city tomorrow where you can hire them from hospitals, so might look into it. Thanks again, your support means a lot to me! ❤️ As for my stubborn-*** friend, well maybe one day she'll get over it and start talking to me again (what tha, I should be the one ignoring her, lol!)

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    Yeah I agree with the other ladies. It's none of your friend's business. I wet the bed until I was about 8 and I was made to wash my sheets before I went to school. It made me feel pretty sh!t.
    My eldest daughter also wet her bed until she was about 8. Your little girl will grow out of it. Don't berate her.

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    You can't hire alarms anymore. The Australian companies want a absolutely fortune but the ones from China are about $15 from memory. Ebay is the way to go.

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    Are you sure you can't get up without waking the baby? When I've got DD1 up she's usually really quiet and doesn't quite wake up.

    But you're friend is totally out of line!!

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    My SIL recently went through very similar. Her DS was night trained and then a couple years later started night wetting. She did as you did for quite a while and used pull ups. Her DS said that his bed was warm, even when wet, and he was too cosy to get up! In the end she saw a specialist paid urologist. The Dr said it was important to gently encourage her DS to take some responsibility for his wetting (physical causes ruled out) so he did have to change his pj's himself and take his sheets to the laundry. They used the alarm system and it worked really well and quite quickly. Hr DS didn't like being woken up because he liked his cosy bed but he quickly learned if he went to the loo then he wouldn't get woken by horrible bells in the night! Obviously just one persons experience but I can recommend seeing the GP to get some help. Good luck!


 

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