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    Default Days like these...

    I've been having a terrible day mentally and I'm just feeling irrationally emotional, irritable and angry. I've done close to nothing all day (one load of dishes) and have hardly interacted with my 3 yo DD at all, which isn't how I usually am. I'm feeling so uncharacteristically unmotivated, distracted and sad and wracked with guilt. I'm usually super laid back and unstructured, so these feelings are just so puzzling. I feel like I have PMS x a thousand, but it's not that time of month so I'm confused. I'm feeling overwhelmingly resentful and anxious.
    I don't even know what the point of this thread is.
    I guess I want to ask, have you ever had one of those days where, without reason, you could simultaneously put your fist through a wall, cry, sleep all day and not want to even be? And feel guilty for being a sh!thouse lazy mother for an entire day?
    Eta.. I am worried that DD can feel my vibe. I feel like a 14 year old hormonal teenager today 😞
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    Yes. I call it Wednesday's

    Seriously, loads of hugs. I have days where life is just too hard and everything is just a struggle.

    One main thing I take away from these days is that I count myself lucky that I'm not a depressive nor do I have mental health issues and that this is only for one day. I feel truly awful for those who feel like this regularly.

    And I forgive myself because I know great days will return.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Yes. I call it Wednesday's

    Seriously, loads of hugs. I have days where life is just too hard and everything is just a struggle.

    One main thing I take away from these days is that I count myself lucky that I'm not a depressive nor do I have mental health issues and that this is only for one day. I feel truly awful for those who feel like this regularly.

    And I forgive myself because I know great days will return.
    Thank you @Sonja
    I've had clinical depression in the past on and off but thankfully not for a long time and this feels more like a random down day. It's hard not to get caught up in the moment. I'm planning on getting out of the house tomorrow, it just occurred to me that I've been housebound for an entire week (it's amazing how fast I lose track of time lately and each day just seems to blur into the next) as my car is broken and since my recent separation I'm not interacting with many adults anymore..

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    Yep. "Pyjama days". I just remind myself - parenting in isolation is bloody hard work, and not really what we were designed to do. Having an off day is totally normal and understandable. It sounds like you are going through some heavy stuff at the moment too. Do you have some mum friends you can catch up with or just go to a playgroup? I find that adult interaction even just once a week is required to keep me level. Hope it passes for you soon.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ~Marigold~ View Post
    Thank you @Sonja
    I've had clinical depression in the past on and off but thankfully not for a long time and this feels more like a random down day. It's hard not to get caught up in the moment. I'm planning on getting out of the house tomorrow, it just occurred to me that I've been housebound for an entire week (it's amazing how fast I lose track of time lately and each day just seems to blur into the next) as my car is broken and since my recent separation I'm not interacting with many adults anymore..
    Yes... I have days like this too, but currently being treated for PND. I definitely have random bad days that are worse than others. Getting out is a good idea. It's always when I haven't been able to speak to an adult for a while.
    Keep an eye on your mood. If it lasts for 2 weeks or more, head to your GP... but I hope you're feeling better today! Be kind to yourself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BornToBe View Post
    Yep. "Pyjama days". I just remind myself - parenting in isolation is bloody hard work, and not really what we were designed to do. Having an off day is totally normal and understandable. It sounds like you are going through some heavy stuff at the moment too. Do you have some mum friends you can catch up with or just go to a playgroup? I find that adult interaction even just once a week is required to keep me level. Hope it passes for you soon.
    Thanks @BornToBe
    I am prone to "cabin fever" and I think since the car issues and feeling trapped it's taking it's toll. I'm usually out and about at every given opportunity, it's not uncommon for me to leave the house at 8am, drop DS off at school and fill my day going here and there, playgroup, library, shopping, swimming pool, until it's time to pick DS up again.
    I guess it's a combination of things now and added stress of not having DH living here anymore.
    Today I'm feeling quite the same as yesterday and trying to ignore it, I've popped on some Christmas carols for DD and she's happily colouring in some Christmas pics and we've also just done the advent calendar. I'm also feeling overwhelmed as the house is looking like a bomb site and I've got zero motivation to clean. I'm getting through the day slowly and have put on some washing and vacuumed!

    .....how wrong would it be to have an alcoholic beverage at 3pm on a Tuesday? 😝😏

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    @Marigold
    I'll join you in that drink.
    I think it's pretty normal to have days like this.
    Hugs.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Tiny Dancer View Post
    Yes... I have days like this too, but currently being treated for PND. I definitely have random bad days that are worse than others. Getting out is a good idea. It's always when I haven't been able to speak to an adult for a while.
    Keep an eye on your mood. If it lasts for 2 weeks or more, head to your GP... but I hope you're feeling better today! Be kind to yourself.
    Thank you x

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    I can relate. Some days I just have zero motivation. I've been stuck at home a lot lately - 1yo DS was sick with a cold, then gastro, then had surgery, and now has gastro again! All in the last 2 weeks! DD has it too so we're all stuck at home watching way too much TV and unable to go anywhere. I can get quite anxious when the kids get sick, especially DS, and combined with cabin fever it can all result in a pretty unhappy me!

    A few days here and there where you're not as engaged as usual won't do any harm - you're human!

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