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    We have lunch or dinner with my mum, brother and sister. Our family is not really close, so we don't have 20+ people attending. We all do our own thing. Dp family all live in Vic so we won't be celebrating with them unfortunately. It's also dp birthday on Christmas day so if we have Christmas lunch, we would have birthday dinner and so on Pretty much one half of the day is Christmas (apart from morning when kids wake up and open presents) and the other half is birthday!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunnygirl79 View Post
    I associate Christmas with family - extended family, including the good, the bad and the ugly. We try to alternate one year with one side (in laws), next year with next side. Every other year we travel interstate but that is getting harder and more expensive (additional children, additional plane ticket etc).

    Last year we combined both families at our house and I loved it. It was huge, but wonderful and crazy and full on. I couldn't do that every year, but might do it every so often with the cousins are up. Just so nice to have all the kids together especially, they absolutely love it.
    My kind of Xmas. The bigger, the crazier, the better!!!

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    Xmas has always been stressful for me. My parents divorced so when I was a kid there were always arguments over who has us and when and getting shuttled from one place to the next. Then when I got together with dh it turned into arguments about who gets to have us for lunch (mum vs Mil vs dad). PiL don't budge over Xmas lunch and then mum gets mad about "never getting to do Christmas lunch" so we end up ****ing someone off every year for years. DHs uncle always get trashed and starts talking loud and obnoxious **** every. Single. year. Ugh.

    It does my head in. I'm currently in a disagreement with dh about lunch again this year as Id actually like to stay home, put ds to bed after lunch (which I want to cook! Something I want to eat for once!) and have some relaxed drinks just with dh for once in my life (someone is always driving so can't have more than a couple over lunch). I'm sick of feeling pulled this way and that on Xmas day running from one place to the next every single year trying to please everyone.

    Gawd I can't wait til I have more kids (that's more of an excuse in my fam) and then tell everyone they can bloody come to us if they want to see us.

    I love Christmas, just not the family bs that goes with it. 😐

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    I'm doing Xmas at mine for myself , dis , my mum and possibly step dad. My sister and nephew are coming from interstate . Sister has just split up with her husband so it will be a small Xmas. Uncles want us to celebrate with them but we are just going to celebrate with immediate family.

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    Maybe I'm a bit weird but I love spending Christmas day with family. I have many days at home where it just DH, the kids and myself. I love being surrounded by family and children other than my own. It's awesome seeing the cousins interacting and the grandparents. I would hate being just us on Christmas day. It would seriously be depressing for me. Each to their own though.

    If I were you I'd either do lunch or dinner with your MIL and their family or whatever but that's it. I don't see why you have to spend the *entire* day with them.

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    Massive hugs @Pearlygirl that sounds rough!
    Why is it in families that often people demand to see others but don't seem to care at all about what might be easiest/nicest/most relaxing for those others!

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    I find it so frustrating when I hear of parents/IL's fighting over who is hosting Christmas day, you are adults grow up!!!
    Alternating each year is not the end of the world....

    I try to alternate but my bil and siblings seem to think its too hard so we just visit whoever we feel like visiting.
    This year both sets of parents are having lunch at our house. I would love to have a large christmas but sadly neither family is ever interested in doing that

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    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Maybe I'm a bit weird but I love spending Christmas day with family. I have many days at home where it just DH, the kids and myself. I love being surrounded by family and children other than my own. It's awesome seeing the cousins interacting and the grandparents. .
    I'd love this to be the case too if it was actually straightforward. Divorced parents + step siblings that have their own families with step parents on the other side, and partners families to see too, plus parts of my family interstate just make it impossible to get everyone together on Christmas day (or even near Christmas), there are always people missing. I just wish Christmas could be straightforward and easy for once like it seems to be for other families. It would be a million times more enjoyable.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Renesme View Post
    Maybe I'm a bit weird but I love spending Christmas day with family. I have many days at home where it just DH, the kids and myself. I love being surrounded by family and children other than my own. It's awesome seeing the cousins interacting and the grandparents. I would hate being just us on Christmas day. It would seriously be depressing for me. Each to their own though.

    If I were you I'd either do lunch or dinner with your MIL and their family or whatever but that's it. I don't see why you have to spend the *entire* day with them.
    I am the same. Spending christmas day with just my dh and kids is like every weekend day for me lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pearlygirl View Post
    I'd love this to be the case too if it was actually straightforward. Divorced parents + step siblings that have their own families with step parents on the other side, and partners families to see too, plus parts of my family interstate just make it impossible to get everyone together on Christmas day (or even near Christmas), there are always people missing. I just wish Christmas could be straightforward and easy for once like it seems to be for other families. It would be a million times more enjoyable.
    I think the grass is always greener on the other side. Different people like different things. Your situation does sound stressful especially with everyone fighting like that. My only suggestion for you is to do what YOU want to do and stuff everyone else.. you're going to make them angry regardless so you may as well do what makes you happy.

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