@Minib: yes, ngala taught us pat and Shoosh. Oh,...patting the head thing. That's a magic touch. If the crying is too much, pick him up, cuddle him and try again. We changed tactic many times but the basis is the same. Pat and Shoosh. You will learn Dd personality. We did. DS always fusses /cries before a nap. The duration correlates on how tired he is. If he is super tired, it doesn't take long to pat and Shoosh. He fusses and cries less. Dozes off very quick. That's why we no longer putting him down the moment he shows tired sign. We just wait until he is "asking" us to help him for nap. If no luck in the cot with me Getting tired of patting and listening him cry, i just put him in the swing. If no luck, just let him be. Play whatever. He doesn't get enough nap but I find it stressful to force him to sleep. After we got back from the ngala, it was all about sleep training him to nap and we felt too stressful. Once we let it go, everyone is happy.