3 months of BF is awesome @bbhope. Maybe your mum can come back again soon. And this time the house is bigger so less stuffy as well.
@bbhope sitting in hospital having my intralipids 👍🏻
Crazy morning 3 shoots back to back so it's nice to be having a forced rest for a few hours. Really feeling my ovaries today!
Trigger injection tonight, just waiting to hear from FN what time today & Wednesday. Feeling a bit nervous I hate the build up knowing how sore I am afterwards.
@Minib no offence at all. I guess we do use this forum as a bit of a blog whereas friends may just get thru the hard times and when you look back it's not so bad so you don't say much just say it gets better and it was hard but you get thru it. The human way of forgetting about pain. Like looking back on labour now I would say it wasn't so bad. But try telling me that before labour.
@bbhope don't feel bad nothing you can do about bubs refusing the boob. Don't beat yourself up about it. I never realised how motherhood can make you feel so guilty! No one told me that. Sometimes I feel like everything I'm doing is wrong. But then I look at other mums and go you are doing an awesome job. I never knew until I became a mother what it's like. I never understood as a non mother with no other exposure to kids. Sometimes when I'm alone and Bub is crying I just leave him in the bassinet to cry it out while I can get some stuff done like brush my teeth, unstuck dishwasher etc. then when I go back to bubs and pick him he falls asleep pretty quickly in my arms. Otherwise I just pop him back down to cry some more for a few minutes. I don't think it hurts them and it gives me a rest. It's hard being at home alone with a newborn that doesn't sleep much.
@Tanej78 - yeh epu is daunting. You are a brave girl and so glad your hubby can be there to hold your hand and look after you afterward. I found heat packs helped and I took Panadol. Fx for great results Hun! ❤️
@bbhope Bub doesn't sleep in a swing or carrier. I wish he did cos then I could get things done. The shh works for us too. It's gold! Bub sleeps in a sleeping bag or swaddle but doesn't stop him from waking every 30min
@Minib love that article. If only it went for longer to describe the isolation loneliness feeling and the feeling of being scared of tmr if there is no sleep. Sleep deprivation is what is the scariest part of it all. If I could get 2x 3 hr sleeps per night guaranteed looking after a newborn wouldn't be too bad. Except for the part where you are on house arrest. And how your heart drops as soon as Bub moves in the bassinet. The anxiety it causes is ridiculous. This is by far the hardest and scariest thing I've ever done! I don't know how teenagers do it.
I just keep telling myself 3 months isn't that bad in the grand scheme of things. I'm marking down the days and trying to enjoy the ride as much as I can
Hope the intralipid Helps. Xx
Crying stresses me out. If only Bub would fall asleep after crying it out. I don't know if carrier or swing works. Just have to try. I think I can get stuff done if Bub sleeps. Like yesterday he just wouldn't settle no matter what. That's difficult. Bub slept about 4hrs after not sleeping the whole day last night. But then I kept waking up to check on him making sure I didn't miss his cue. Get bottle ready. DH finally convinced that nothing we did change the fact that Bub stomach is sensitive. So we r now doing the half cold half hot water method. Faster than the bottle warmer which gives a lot if frustration because Bub can't wait. Funny is that I keep planning what's next to do the mins I have my hands free! Obviously Bub is in my arms again. About to try putting him down the third time in 1hr.
@bbhope oh poor thing. Glad to hear the new method of bottle make up helps. Poor Bub can't wait. Neither can mines starts crying as soon as he's awake.
Our bubs did the 30min wake thing today again but then relos came over and he missed a sleep session and now he's been down for 2.5 hrs. He has no consistency. They say when overtired they don't sleep well. I guess the Internet is not always right. He has been better since doing that big poo. Last 2 nights he has been a dream if only there was some consistency I could relax. Unfortunately like you @bbhope I can't sleep well even when he does a long stretch cos I'm so used to him waking soon. My sleep
Is just all over the place. Whoever said you should sleep when baby sleeps has no children! Who can sleep on demand?? Not me!
@Tanej78 you poor thing. 3 shots back to back. It will be all worth it. Heat pack and panadol should help if you feel sore after EPU. What time is EPU on Wednesday?
@bbhope @Gelati you are right. My friends and families never told me all those details because it wasn't my time yet to have a baby so what's the point of telling me all those details.
Theory and real life definitely very different. Hang in there ladies and count down to the better days.
I am yet to start and I'm sure I will feel the same way.
I also found it weird people keep telling me to sleep as much as I can now. But it's not like I can bank my sleep. It would mean nothing if I sleep more now.
@Gelati @bbhope you guys are doing amazing even when you feel like your not... Thank you for being so open... It it can all be so raw going through it, eventually it had to get better xx
@Minib my own fault... Scheduling as much as I can so I can rest and recover when DH is home ... But atleast it's been good for biz, have had a great response to Christmas shoots this year!
Trigger shot just done eeek... Always so paranoid of screwing it up!! Collection is 9am Wednesday... Have to be at hosp @7:30... DH lands @6:15... Eeek!! Hopefully his flight isn't late
@Tanej78 - eek that's cutting it fine. Fx it all goes very smoothly. Straight to the hospital from the airport for hubby?
@Minib - yeh I've realised its such a nothing comment to make. Doesn't help at all and makes it sound like something light hearted like ha ha. When in reality the sleep deprivation is horrendous if you dint have a baby that sleeps the 18hrs the books say they do.
Rather than complaining all the time wanted to say that I watched steel magnolias today (well over two days as it takes about 5 goes to finish watching a movie these days) one of my fav movies and I balled my eyes out when shelby died. Have you girls watched it before? Anyways I realised that no matter how hard it's been I still love my boy to bits and absolutely without a doubt give my life for him. It's just a love like no other and girls it is really worth it and sorry for always whinging the last few posts. . Anyways Bub woke up like clockwork at 30min so I just held him to sleep in my arms and gave him kisses. It's moments like these that make it all worth it in the end. Sorry for the mushy post but just wanted to write something positive. Xx
Yep Im aiming to pick him up, and then we drive apt - hawthorn...
Up working coz im feeling a bit nervous... Looked up the flight it looks like it lands early majority of the time, and DH has only carry on.. so fingers xd its nice and stress free in the morning!
Looking forward to having him home for the whole 10 days.. usually it doesnt time very well and he's heading back to work straight after EPU... So it will be nice to just be, and have him look after me haha
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