The other thread about when your water broke got me thinking. I gave birth to my dd one and a half years ago. When we arrived at the hospital in the early morning, dr did an internal check and told me i was 6cm dilated. But what she didn't tell me was that she broke my water with me and my husband being fully unaware. When my husband asked if he can go and get the hospital bag from the car, dr advised him to not to as i might have the baby very soon. My labour progressed pretty quickly however, even though i was having so much pain from contractions, it was still on the back of my mind that when will my water break. At one point, i asked the midwife and she told me dr has already broke my water when she did the internal. I was quite upset as i know i should be informed of what is to happen to my body. When i had my ds, drs discussed with me if they can break the water artificially as i had a prolonged labour, explained how they are going to do it and showed the hook kind of thing they were going to use.
Even to this day, whenever i think about dd's labour, i feel upset. I feel violated by the act of the dr. I feel i was not respected as a patient or as a person as the Dr didn't even bother to explain to me what is going to happen to my body. I was not given a choice. I was excluded from the decision making process.
Dh thinks we should complain to the hospital, but i thought this feeling would go away, however it is getting stronger. Sometimes i wonder if i am overreacting as my water was going to break anyone.
How would you feel?