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    My dd is starting kindy next year and has started having a half day trial one day a week.
    She has never been to childcare etc and is very shy around adults but when we go to playgrounds she fits in with other kids ok.
    The problem we are having is that she was ok week 1 a bit harder week 2 but this week she didn't want us to leave. The teachers are great and try to get her involved in something so we can leave but she was close to tears when we left. When we pick her up she's generally crying and we are told she's fine until about half an hour before pick up when she becomes inconsolable.
    Is it normal for kids to struggle with kindy dropoffs? Is there anything we can do to help?
    We live rural so next year she will be a bus kid and I'm really worried about how she is going to cope.

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    I know when all of my girls started kindy, they really struggled. Crying, attached to my leg and would let me leave. It took a little while but they soon adjusted. DD4 starts preschool next year, has also started her orientation days and was adamant that she wouldn't be going there. I expected her to be my most difficult but she was great. I started taking her there a few weeks prior on the quiet half days to familiarize herself with the kindy, look at the toys, get comfortable with the teachers etc which has really worked. Perhaps you could ask if you can take your DD for half hour here and there over the next coming weeks?

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    Bump for anyone else.

    It's getting worse it's like she's regressing in herself. Won't use words has started not participating in swimming and is impossible to convince to go anywhere.
    I really don't even know how we are going to get her to kindy this week!

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    Can you stay for the entire class this week just to show her there is nothing to be afraid of?

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    Just for clarification: do you mean kinder as in preschool, or kinder as in the first year of primary school?

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    Can you afford send her to childcare now? This is why I think childcare is important for a little bit of socialisation around adults. (I'm not bashing you)

    I would ask if you can have more than half day orientations. Maybe three days a week (might make her tired but she won't be as nervous) that's what they do with childcare.

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    Big hugs, that is really really hard.

    I don't have much advice but there was a boy at DS's early learning centre who used to cry for hours when his mum dropped him off. It was the first time she's left him with anyone, (about 3 yrs old). I used to feel so sorry for her. I'm not sure just how long it took (a few months?)but he did get over it eventually. From memory his crying just got less and less gradually. The staff were very good to him, but I honestly think it's more a time thing, time to get used to a new place, new people and to feel safe in the environment. Try not to feel bad, they all have to go through it at some point, it's a very hard but valuable lesson that will give them a sense of self confidence and independence (eventually).

    Talk to the staff about anything else you (or they) can do to help. I am sure they would deal with similar situations all the time and have some good advice. Sometimes taking a blanky or comforter can help, spending an hour or so with them at kindy before you leave (try to get them engaged in an activity), and try as much as possible to stay calm and confident yourself (even if you want to cry).

    It is totally normal and some children just take a little longer than others to adapt. Best of luck x

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mod-Nomsie View Post
    Just for clarification: do you mean kinder as in preschool, or kinder as in the first year of primary school?
    Preschool.
    We have four weeks of orientation and then she starts next year two days a week one week and three days the next.

    The teachers are going to take pictures this week and we have to take her in the week prior to school next year to get her used to it again and they will use the pictures to give her a guide as to what she does all day and when she goes home etc.
    They are only open for another week or so and the teachers think if we stay with her it will only make it worse.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Raylin Park View Post
    Preschool.
    We have four weeks of orientation and then she starts next year two days a week one week and three days the next.

    The teachers are going to take pictures this week and we have to take her in the week prior to school next year to get her used to it again and they will use the pictures to give her a guide as to what she does all day and when she goes home etc.
    They are only open for another week or so and the teachers think if we stay with her it will only make it worse.

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    I think that sounds like a brilliant idea.
    Do you know any of the other parents that you could visit over the summer so she can make friends before term 1 begins?

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    I have found with my kids when they've started Childcare that 1 day a week isn't enough for them to settle in. I say ditch the orientation altogether and then when she starts next year 2/3 days a week she should get used to it a lot quicker.
    It is tricky for them, if you could it would probably be great to find someone else in her class and organise some play dates. My DD looks forward to playing with her friends at Childcare, it is the only way I can get her there!


 

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