Haven't read any replies. There may be more to the situation that isn't yet obvious yet/will become more obvious as the season progresses over why the mum just hasn't left her husband... Yet.
I doubt it would purely be a case of the woman hasn't thought about her child at all. Maybe she thinks the child won't be affected as the child won't find out. Maybe she has suffered over the years and the point of it all boiling over has been reached so she's just letting rip. Maybe there are real big problems in the marriage and she's secretly hoping they will be fixed. Maybe she knows deep in her heart the marriage is over yet she doesn't want to hurt her child or husband so hasn't found a way to yell them.
I'm not saying the below two situations are comparable - by any means. I'm only trying to highlight a point that it's not always that simple and it doesn't necessarily mean a woman doesn't lover her kids or want what is best for them.
- I have little tolerance for situations where women stay in abusive relationships when there are kids involved. On BH there's always at least one member who points out it's not always 'that' easy for a woman who has suffered over the years and be beaten down to just leave. I wholeheartedly agree a woman staying doesn't mean she doesn't love her kids or doesn't want I be a good mum. Women are more than what is between our legs - we have brains, feelings and can be heavily influenced by external factors. Hope this makes sense and doesn't offend anyone.
I haven't seen this show yet but it's on my radar (but not worried about spoilers).
Completely different series but I've been watching The Affair (pretty self explanatory) - about two people who have an affair thus destroying both their marriages and causing a tsunami-line ripple effect throughout their social networks and community. The impact is absolutely devastating and keeps on going. At first you start to dislike the man. Then the woman. Then their exes. Then the kids. To the point where you end up not really liking any of the characters but at the same time sort of empathising with each of them as you get to know them. It's also produced so that you see from multiple characters viewpoints what is happening. It's a bit confusing at times but what I like is the fact that a story is never black/white and everyone will have their own take on things. One person might appear cold then in the next scene you find out that something else happened for them that day that affected their behaviour.
Coming back to the original question, I think in some cases an affair is a way of escape, rather than following ones heart. So while it might seem the person doing it doesnt care about the impacts, actually it's that they're switched off to the potential fallout altogether.
I forget that I am not only a mother - I am always so busy thinking how I can do better as a mother, a wife - but I am also a woman.
There can be a thousand reasons for cheating - and no it's not ok but maybe losing our identity of what we were before kids, the serious relationship/marriage can affect us more than we think.
Men tend to have the excuse of 'I lost who I was after marriage/kids' or similar - we have come to accept that but why is it harder for us to accept that excuse when it comes to a woman? (This is something *I* struggle with too). This probably did not come out right. I am struggling to come up with the right words/feelings from the jumble in my head.
I don't watch the show but I doubt women have different reasons why they cheat.
Personally, I completely get it. I slept with a lot of people before I met DH and I enjoyed most of those trysts. I can completely separate sex from emotion and I possibly enjoy sleeping with new people more than sleeping with a partner.
I would never cheat because DH is wonderful and I could never hurt him like that, but I do have a lot of little crushes that I would love to act on.
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