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    So my DF brother is getting married in feb. They were meant to get married a year or so a go but she found another guy in another country but then they called it off and SIL stayed with my DFs brother.

    The thing is, they live in another country, which we will have just been home to visit, exactly one month after we leave, we would have to fly back for this wedding. When we booked our flights home for Xmas, they had not informed us they had re set the date.

    DF and his brother are not particularly close and we have very little to do with them. DF also doesn't believe they should be getting married due to her previous behaviour (among other things)

    Then add in that they expect gifts, but you also have to pay for your own meal and drinks and the reception..

    DF doesn't want to go, but his brother is getting super annoyed at us

    Would you go?

    Would you pay another $1500 (in flights) one month after you had just visited, then pay for a gift and your own meal?

    I don't mind either way, but it's his family, his choice. Just wondering what others would do ☺️
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    People who choose to have destination weddings or weddings that require significant travel, cost, time off work for all or some guests, know that some guests won't be able to make it.
    I would go if I could afford it without placing financial strain on my family.
    If it would cause financial strain that I was unable or unwilling to wear, then I wouldn't go.
    Don't get me started on the etiquette of paying your own meal after being invited to a wedding.
    But if I was prepared to pay all that money, I doubt an extra $100 for a meal would break the bank regardless of what I think of it.
    If you don't want to have the cost or can't go, just send best wishes in a card. A gift is optional if you don't go but a card is obligatory I think, if you've been invited.

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    I've actually already bought a gift and card for them

    At the moment there a probably a 90% chance we won't go. While we could afford it, we are also getting married in December so any money we do have saved would be going towards our honey moon.
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    Anyone else?

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    If it were not an issue financially I think I'd probably leave it up to DH to decide whether to go.
    If it were my brother and this same situation - nope. Money could be better spent elsewhere, they're acting very entitled, and I'd say no on principle.

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    In the situation you describe, nope!

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    We haven't gone as a couple or family to dh siblings weddings here in Australia because of the cost. It unrealistic to expect people to shell out huge amounts of money to go to a wedding especially on short notice.
    Could just your dh go?

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    I'd leave it up to your df, considering it's his brother and his reasons seem valid.

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    There's no chance DF would go without me..
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    Do you have kids? Or would it just be you and your DF going?


 

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