It IS unfair @Bongley. I often think about that myself. We have spent all but about $3,000 of the deposit which was intended for us to buy a home together. We have sold all our assets other than the basics which we need to be able to work and survive. We have no savings. My husband has no super. And we have exactly NOTHING to show for it but a lost baby who never entered this world. It is not fair, it really isn't. I feel for your friend. I feel for all of us unfortunate enough to have never held our much longed for babies in our arms.
We are not sure if we will do another round of IVF either. I don't know if we have enough money, and we don't have any more coming in other than what it will cost us to sustain ourselves. It's bl@@dy hard. It shouldn't come down to money to have a baby! I'm not sure what we will do. Do we do another round, or do we cut our losses now? It is a hard decision to make.