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    Hi Julzgulz and Congratulations on your pregnancy!

    The first time around can be so overwhelming when there's so much to think about and do, as well as grow a baby, so completely understandable if you're feeling overwhelmed and confused.

    Firstly, you've definitely landed in the right spot for advice and support, as you can imagine thousands of women on here have been in your shoes, so there will always be someone who can offer kind words and support and sage advice. I would thoroughly recommend you join one of the DIG (Due in groups) on here, you will be able to chat with other women who are at the same stage of pregnancy such as yourself. (I'm not sure when you're due) but don't hesitate to ask if you're unsure where to find the DIG on here.

    When you reach 5 posts on here, you will be able to send and receive pm's, as 'Once Upon a Time' kindly offered to do, so keep posting and you'll soon be able to do that.

    Again, congratulations and welcome to Bubhub.

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    If you're going public, the focus will be on vaginal delivery. Pain relief options will be up to you. As for birth centres, they may well be booked out already. Ask your midwife at your next appointment. Are you enrolled in antenatal classes? I highly recommend them.

    I second what others have said about going with the flow and joining your DIG.

    I also highly recommend JuJu Sundin's Birth Skills book. Good for helping you feel prepared. Good luck!

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    Yes ^ , JuJu Sundin's Birth Skills book was my bible, loved that book!

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    Bump.

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    I'll third Juju Sundin. It's fantastic.

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    Def read Juju Sundin, it's an excellent book. One born every minute (lots of eps on youtube) was also a great resource for me as I could see how different labours and births progress and gave me an idea of what I ideally wanted.

    OP I'm not entirely sure what you are after but can give you my experience...

    I went through a midwifery group practice at my local hospital. They focus on low risk births with low intervention. It gives the woman the freedom to move around, use the bath and shower and labour how she wants. But you have the safety net of being in the hospital if more intervention is needed or wanted (eg painkillers, induction, c-section etc etc). Group practices are highly sought after and you normally need to book in early. Having said that though, standard labour wards in public hospitals also encourage vaginal births where possible but are more open to using pain killers than the group practices.

    I wanted as natural a birth as I could get but was open to needing things if that's how it turned out, as I didn't want to stress myself if things didn't go to plan. I wanted no drugs but was happy to get them if I needed or wanted to during labour. If the midwives or drs deemed more intervention was necessary then that was ok with me too, the safety of me and the baby was paramount.

    I think birth plans are over rated personally, labour and birth are a huge unknown and going in with an idea of what you want, but being flexible depending on the circumstances, is IMO really important.

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    I would recommend Juju Sundins Birth Skills and Gentle Birth Gentle Mothering by Sarah Buckley which goes through choices regarding interventions etc in reference to known research. It also goes through the BRAN (Or BRAIN) method of making decisions - benefits, risks, alternatives, (instinct/intuition) and what if you do nothing.

    I was lucky in that two months before concieving ds I had decided I would want a homebirth. I didn't go with the flow at all with my birth. Lol.

    Birth plans are definitely not overrated. They make you sit down and do some research into your options and your preferences. So then if things don't go to plan you know you gave it your best shot and/or understand why. It helps your health care professionals understand your philosophy etc. Keep it simple so it gets read and include a separate plan for what you want for bub after birth (vit k, hep b, bfing only or artificial feeds, dummy or not, parents to be asked regarding any decision with bub).
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    I'll see if they have the book at my library.
    Pearlygirl: how did you know you wanted a natural birth, how did you come to that decision? Did you just go off info from your midwife, do your own research?

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    I just wanted to add, having a good support person with you during the labour and birth is really important imo. If your dp isn't up to it, I would look at getting a close relative, doula or student midwife to support you. It really helps if they understand what you want - they may need to speak on your behalf or just be there for encouragement etc.

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    Julgulz, if I may answer for myself in terms of 'how did I know I wanted a natural birth'. For me, I didn't see any other reason not to have a natural birth, I was young, fit, healthy, didn't have a fear of the thought of natural childbirth etc, etc. DH and I attended the ante natal classes together as well as some physio birthing classes. Unfortunately the first time around, my baby decided not to co-operate with my plans for a natural birth and was breech. The public Hospital I was at told me they could perform ECV to try and get her to turn, but that they only had one Ob who was confident in doing so, the same with breech birthing, hence the reason I ended up with an 'elective c/s'.

    After having that one c/s, I was adamant that I was going to try to have any other children naturally (unless of course medical reasons deemed this impossible).
    I researched to the cows came home, read of others experiences, studied my Ju Ju book and wrote a birth plan. I had my second baby again publically, however at another Hospital. It was midwife led care, however not in a birth centre (wasn't an option for me unfortunately). The public care was amazing, but very busy, so my ante natal appointments were very brief, so I decided to go to a Vbac course and breastfeeding course they were holding, as well as did my own research and spoke to a Doula friend via email.

    The third and forth babies were both born in another public Hospital, however in another state. This time though, I fortunately was able to get myself onto the midwifery case load program and it was the best thing ever for me. Although I had had two previous babies, I was a little bit older and some things had changed, plus I was at a different Hospital in another state yet again.

    Fortunately, I was able to have the last three babies all naturally, no drugs etc.There were a few little hiccups after the birth of baby no3, however I couldn't have faulted the care I was given in the midwifery system. Yes, you're discharged super early after giving birth, however you're not alone. The Midwife visits you every day for the first week and the next 10 days as needed in your own home.

    Giving birth is such a personal thing, it really is. Everybody has different perspectives, fears, bodies, home life situations etc, you just have to look around at the various threads on here. All I can say is, knowledge is power, you know your limits, pain threshold and family circumstances better than anyone. Don't be afraid to ask your Midwife/Doctor/Ob questions, that's what they're there for, no question is silly or trivial, they all matter, so don't hesitate to ask.

    Even if you write down a list of questions you have and take it with you, or ask on here.

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