Oh hopeful I'm so sorry! I totally understand, we lost a couple friendship going through this as it was just too hard. They got their ref to the ivf clinic and then found out they were pregnant. She kept saying to me "I understand we would have had to go through it too" but no love, you don't and you can't because you haven't gone through it and you are happily pregnant now so leave me be!
Big rig hugs to both you and apples!