I need some advice and please don't quote this post as I may delete it.
I was put in the foster system at a young age and was aware my biological mother had several more children after me (I was he first) I was later adopted by one of my foster parents. There was limited contact with my siblings (I met them maybe 5 times)
I have a half sister about 3 years younger than me. When I was 15 her foster worker contacted me that she was eager to meet up and would I like to. We caught up once and had lunch and it was pleasant and exchanged phone numbers but neither of us really kept in touch and she phoned me a few times asking awkward things like could I call a friends mum and pretend I was taking them to the city with me.
She had a pretty hard life as her father took her in when our biological mother lost custody and didn't sound like she had the best time of it.
Anyway about 4 years ago she tracked me down on Facebook and we had a little convo but straight away went on about how another of our siblings causes her problems and caused her to lose a baby and that I was her sister and she loved me so much and I'm ashamed to say I didn't really feel comfortable taking the step to having her in my life.... I had just had a baby two weeks earlier and I jut wasn't in the frame of mind to deal with it all. I was mulling it over in my mind and time just got away from me and I didn't accept her friend request and she didn't write back to me.
Anyway it's four years later an she has just tried to make contact again and I don't know what to do. We have ha such different upbringings and I have spent over 30 years as an only child. I wouldn't mind keeping in touch with her but don't know if I want to meet and try to have a sisterly bond... I don't want to hurt her feelings or make her feel like she has done something wrong....
Please be gentle with your responses. I am really struggling with this all and it's making me sick to my stomach.