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    Default Charity gift for teachers - yes or no?!?

    Quote Originally Posted by Moxy View Post
    Jeepers,reading through this has officially made me feel like utter crap knowing that the gifts I got for DS for his kinder teachers last year were probably unwanted, disliked and thrown out. What happened to appreciating the sentiment behind gift giving and appreciating that thought, in most cases a lot of it, went into choosing those gifts?
    If I can tell there is thought behind it I'll love the gift no matter what - I've had students give me dangly earrings that weren't really my style but their parents have told me they "noticed you always wear dangly earrings so they picked these out for you" - and I would proudly wear the Diva earrings as a result. A box of Ferreros with a personalised message - I'll probably pass on the chocolates but keep the card. I've had a student give me a strange looking wooden butterfly - the mum told me he'd fashioned it himself and had been working on it in his dad's shed - I nearly cried.

    Point being that teachers aren't going through gifts tossing them out and saying 'cr@p, lame, cr@p'. I agree that it's the thought that counts and love gifts that show thought. I was responding to some of the other posters who said they thought teachers would prefer something for themselves (chocolates, candles) to a charity gift. Even a drawing or note with no gift is appreciated. It's just nice to know that we've made some impact.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moxy View Post
    Jeepers,reading through this has officially made me feel like utter crap knowing that the gifts I got for DS for his kinder teachers last year were probably unwanted, disliked and thrown out. What happened to appreciating the sentiment behind gift giving and appreciating that thought, in most cases a lot of it, went into choosing those gifts?
    True.

    Another way of looking at it though is to focus on choosing gifts that the particular receiver will enjoy. Too often people think of a gift they think is cool and then mass produce it for a bunch of people regardless of that persons individual tastes or wants. A lot of effort but not a lot of sentiment . Not saying that's what you did. Hope that makes sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lilahh View Post
    Thats very dramatic. Have you really never considered that people have different tastes and likes to your own and they can appreciate the thought behind a gift without liking the gift? You can put as much thought as you like into a gift, but if someone doesn't drink wine, eat licorice, or want an ornament you have made what are they supposed to do? Choke down the licorice anyway? Seriously. I'm sure your kids kinder teachers absolutely loved the thought, and perhaps they loved the gift and perhaps they didn't. But giving gifts doesn't licence anyone to force the receiver to like it.

    the op didn't ask what would a teacher appreciate, she asked what they would like. If I was a teacher I would prefer a gift that didn't remind me of my job, I would prefer a gift that I could enjoy in my downtime.

    happy holidays!
    Dramatic? Hardly. Not like I'm going up lose sleep over it. But yeah, I feel crappy about the gifts that I got them. I think anyone who buys teachers gifts do so with the best of intentions; they're not "mandatory" gifts like buying for your parents or the great aunt you only see at Xmas and are obligated to buy for. So yeah, it kind of sucks to know that in all likelihood the gifts we got for the kinder teachers last year were added to the list of "gifts I was given but didn't like". I don't know many people that know their kids' teachers well enough to find out their personal likes and dislikes. Our kinder teachers are very mindful of not becoming too friendly with parents in order to avoid issues of favoritism etc.

    I dunno. I'm tired and pre menstrual. Maybe I'll read this again in a week or so and have a totally different opinion. Though that can happen regardless of circumstances, I'm fickle like that 😉

    As as you were!

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    I'm not giving teachers booze because we consume too much booze etc and I don't think it's appropriate giving at a school.

    I also don't think charity things are good either. If you really give a crap go serve some time there not a 'gift card' where most the cash goes to a CEO. But yeah..... Just my hard *** opinion.

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    I'm not a teacher but I'm married to one and if he got a charity gift I'd be very impressed!

    He normally gets chocolate or alcohol.

    But at the end of the day getting a gift, any gift, for a job you are paid to do is pretty amazing, and all teachers I know are grateful for the thought and effort gone into it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by monnie24 View Post
    I'm not giving teachers booze because we consume too much booze etc and I don't think it's appropriate giving at a school.

    I also don't think charity things are good either. If you really give a crap go serve some time there not a 'gift card' where most the cash goes to a CEO. But yeah..... Just my hard *** opinion.
    Who consumes too much booze?

    I rarely drink but a bottle of wine at the end of a school year is harmless and should be thoroughly enjoyed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BigRedV View Post
    Who consumes too much booze?

    I rarely drink but a bottle of wine at the end of a school year is harmless and should be thoroughly enjoyed.
    Teachers obvs. Remember the drug taking, booze swilling deviant teacher thread? 😜

    I think she means society in general.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Moxy View Post
    Dramatic? Hardly. Not like I'm going up lose sleep over it. But yeah, I feel crappy about the gifts that I got them. I think anyone who buys teachers gifts do so with the best of intentions; they're not "mandatory" gifts like buying for your parents or the great aunt you only see at Xmas and are obligated to buy for. So yeah, it kind of sucks to know that in all likelihood the gifts we got for the kinder teachers last year were added to the list of "gifts I was given but didn't like". I don't know many people that know their kids' teachers well enough to find out their personal likes and dislikes. Our kinder teachers are very mindful of not becoming too friendly with parents in order to avoid issues of favoritism etc.

    I dunno. I'm tired and pre menstrual. Maybe I'll read this again in a week or so and have a totally different opinion. Though that can happen regardless of circumstances, I'm fickle like that ������

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    I feel the same. I'm surprised how crappy this thread has made me feel (and I know its partly because things are a bit tough at the moment so I'm extra sensitive). I can't afford to get everyone gift vouchers or movie tickets and it feels like that's the only universally acceptable gift.

    It feels a little harsh to say, 'this is what we give' and be told 'i hate that gift and so do all the other teachers I know'. This is what it feels like: 'your gifts suck, just give me the money so I can get something actually tasteful.' Ouch.

    Our school has specialist teachers for several subjects. I get the impression that everyone always forgets about them at Christmas and only classroom teachers get presents, even though they work just as hard for the kids. I've bought them all little gifts but now I'm embarrassed to give them out.

    And to the people rubbishing gifts - sometimes a 'generic' gift is actually very carefully thought out. For instance one of DD's teachers a few years ago loved adventure sports so we looked around and got her a skydiving Santa Christmas tree decoration. And I looked everywhere to find a little violin christmas tree decoration for her music teacher. So yeah, I give the christmas ornaments that apparently are crappy gifts, but its because I'm a sentimental person who likes to give something with love in it.

    I know, I know, I just need to toughen up and not give a *** what people think but that's just not me. I do care.

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    I think it's really nice of you to put so much effort into gifts for your child's teacher. When I was teaching and received gifts I always always appreciated them and was very grateful.

    That being said I think there's a difference between appreciating a gift and liking it.

    Personally I'm not a huge fan of charity gifts. Don't get me wrong it's a lovely thought but unless the charity is something particularly special to me it doesn't really feel like the gift has much to do with me. I also think that teachers sacrifice so much of their own time and money through the year for their students that if you're going to go to effort of getting them a gift, something that they would enjoy would be money better spent.

    I think relaxing experience gifts are great for teachers, a movie voucher, dinner voucher, gift card for a massage or pedicure etc, these are things I think most teachers would appreciate and would give them an opportunity to relax and unwind over the holidays.

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    Quote Originally Posted by MissMuppet View Post
    I can't afford to get everyone gift vouchers or movie tickets and it feels like that's the only universally acceptable gift.
    That's understandable but I think in the case of this thread the OP is willing to spend money on a charity gift and that's usually not cheap, you're not going to donate $5 to a charity in someone's name right, so the suggestion is if you would spend $20-$50 on a charity gift a voucher for something enjoyable might be money better spent.

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