My DHs 'problem' isn't so much that he is lazy, it's more about getting distracted and then finding himself too tired to get stuff done. Whether that's distracted by TV or a mate or fiddle-arseing around with something after work, whatever it still results in me needing to do the evening run around and left with responsibility with the housework. Also I think evenings are the toughest time in that everyone's tired (both you and kids) and it's a battle to get little ones ready for bed while at the same time getting dinner ready and tidying up etc.
Not that I'm really a fan of the passive-aggressive approach, but what if you just focussed on getting kid/s to bed and doing a general tidy and clean, then took yourself off to have a bath (no dinner prepared at all)? Then it's "every man for himself" so to speak, and if DH gets cranky you just say you're tired and sore and need a break. Tough!