I thought I'd pose this in the working mum section as I've been away from work for so long I could do with an alternative perspective.
We've 3 kids youngest unplanned and now 17mths. I asked dp to take 1 day off work to do my role for a day as I'm feeling very stressed - getting over shingles brought on my needing a rebiopsy for suspected cancer recurrence. We have no family here. I actually asked him back in January to do this for me but got fed up chasing him for a day. He had 10 days paternal leave but as his mum was here from nz he only had 2 at home, 3/4 taking older kids skiing, 1 to paint our deck. Not sure what happened with the others but he's never had one other 'just' at home with me and bub.
So this time he said if I wanted a day off I have to wean 17mth old as she is too dependent on me...
Sorry I'm sure you working mamas don't have time for this but I'd be interested in a different perspective. I suspect he doesn't want to 'waste' an annual leave day doing 'my' work but he'd never admit that is in his head he's a modern man!