Every relationship has difficult patches, but after 4 years of being unhappy it sounds like it's more than that. You both sound miserable. You need to have a good talk once the kids are in bed and discuss whether you both want to salvage the marriage, and if in fact it can be or has gone past the point of no return.
You say he was emotionally barren from the beginning so it sounds like he hasn't changed, your needs have. Which is perfectly fine, that happens so many times throughout our lives. But maybe he doesn't know how to reach out to you? Maybe marriage counselling might help?
I think I need to see a counsellor first so I can get my head straight.
No I don't think it's unfair at all. He isn't just a provider as a man, he's a father and husband. If you were asking once a week and he had no leave and was getting heat from his employer then ok but it doesn't sound like this is the case.
Are you on meds? I don't have depression but have anxiety and it's the best decision I made.
Last edited by delirium; 18-11-2015 at 18:08.
I think when you're partner offers no support after something as serious as a cancer diagnosis, it's time to move on.
I'm setting myself up for a flaming but here goes.
I myself am not very supportive of other people's troubles. In my head if you have a problem or issue either you fix it or get over it or move on from it. And I tend to rather offer help or suggestions than listen/be supportive. I'm more of a practical/help hands on than of any emotional support. My dh has commented on this a few times.
Is your dh like this? I'm not trying to get him out of the doghouse but is he more of a hands on practical person? Not everyone has an emotional radar, I know mine is sketchy at best.
This may not be what you want to hear but he just might not be capable of giving you what he doesn't have.
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