Since my unplanned pregnancy with #3 (now 17mths) things have not been good at home. I've been depressed and anxious and stressed out. Dp is emotionally barren. This isn't just me having a go, he knows this - or at least appreciated it when he was younger. I think my inability to cope just irritates him and with no family here and not close to friends (who all stopped at 2 kids and work / study) I feel like I have no emotional support. I knew he was like this when we got together but I'm usually quite strong and self sufficient. Things actually started going bad 4 years ago when I was diagnosed with cancer. He got fed up with me stressing and crying. He didn't give me any time to recover - I'd had my thyroid taken out and couldn't talk loud or lift children and I remember him getting irritated with me for not being able to call ds off the road or lift him into car. Anyways. Things were worse after the pregnancy that he wanted me to terminate. The latest thing is I have shingles and I know it's stress related, I know I should rest etc so I asked him to take a day off work but he won't unless I wean dd2 age 17 months. He never asks how I am. When I told him I was seeing a psychologist about pnd he never once asked me how the sessions went. I just don't think he cares about me at all anymore I'm just the nagging mum who looks after the kids and house. I've never had more than 2 hours away from the kids in 17mths.
Sorry for rambling. We have ups and downs and I just don't know if I should keep riding out these bad times or its time to call it a day? I feel like I probably need legal advice as we bought the house together but he stumped up most of the money for the large deposit and pays all the mortgage payments as I've not worked. We aren't married but have been together for more than 10 years