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    Quote Originally Posted by Moxy View Post
    I'd feel awkward because even though it's a babes in arms session, I'd still be concerned about disturbing others. Hence never going to a babes in arms session when I had babies. My anxiety wouldn't have allowed me to enjoy it. Similarly I wouldn't go to a season like that without kids; I'd pay the extra for a regular session or just wait for the movie on DVD. I don't want to spend money at the movies to see something that's highly likely to be interrupted with a crying baby.

    On as a side note, the OP didn't say it was because of sinister reasons that she felt uncomfortable, so accusing her of being judgemental is casting the exact same judgment on her. Yeah, a bit more clarity around the nature of her feelings would help understand them but I think it's fair to say almost everyone on here and IRL needs to clarify sentiments from time to time. Waggling the virtual finger and giving grief for not getting all the facts out and having that first post 100% perfect is harsh and an OTT reaction

    And since when is the rule on BH that you may post questions only but are forbidden from posting how you felt or reacted to a situation? OP has been unfairly jumped on in this thread.
    To me, the use of the word 'vulnerable' along with 'uncomfortable' insinuated feeling like somebody must have been dodgey.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    To me, the use of the word 'vulnerable' along with 'uncomfortable' insinuated feeling like somebody must have been dodgey.
    See I didn't think that at all, because I'd feel like I was going to be confronted for having a noisy baby even though it's a a baby session and that would make me feel similar. I hate confrontation and even when I'm in the right, the thought of a stranger saying something makes me feel uncomfortable.

    But even if she did feel that way, that it was because of something sinister, jumping down her throat for it just seems OTT to me. Challenge it for sure, but I think it's possible to do that without being hostile.

    Like I said, a bit of clarity around the OPs sentiments would help understand where she's coming from.

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    To me, the use of the word 'vulnerable' along with 'uncomfortable' insinuated feeling like somebody must have been dodgey.
    I totally see where you are coming from. Probably not the right words to use.

    I think sometimes we may use words that aren't exactly what we feel/think because we don't know what else to use at the time.

    I took it as more a 'what if my baby cries and people get mad' kind of feeling or 'I won't feel comfortable feeding' kind of feeling.

    I think the OP needs clarification but the OP is probably not comfortable coming back to explain.

    OP - I think some good info has come out of this. Some people do go to the sessions as they are cheaper/better times - I think some people also prefer that the volume is quieter and the cinema isn't as dark.

    They are (or should be) aware that there can be babies. And of course babies can cry. So try and eelax and enjoy it - do your own thing. If someone complains tell them to speak to an employee and ignore.

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    Totally agree with Moxy

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    Quote Originally Posted by HollyGolightly81 View Post
    To me, the use of the word 'vulnerable' along with 'uncomfortable' insinuated feeling like somebody must have been dodgey.
    You're in a dark space with limited points of escape and you have your hands full with a baby and baby stuff.
    If someone was to confront you then the environment in its nature makes it very difficult.
    The fact that you have your baby in your arms makes you vulnerable as you need to protect them.

    The fact that none of these people in the theatre appear to have kids ( as they weren't the right demographic and yes I'm stereotyping here) also means they may not be aware of what to expect. Whilst I'm not a people pleaser I also don't want my children to disturb others so I was uncomfortable

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    I think you have every right to feel however you felt without being put down for feeling that way.

    For the record, I would not feel the same as you as in feeling threatened or anything, but I would think it was a little bit odd and would immediately assume that the people selling the tickets had forgotten to say "you do realise it's a babes in arms session don't you?" as they should be doing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by maternidade View Post
    You're in a dark space with limited points of escape and you have your hands full with a baby and baby stuff.
    If someone was to confront you then the environment in its nature makes it very difficult.
    The fact that you have your baby in your arms makes you vulnerable as you need to protect them.

    The fact that none of these people in the theatre appear to have kids ( as they weren't the right demographic and yes I'm stereotyping here) also means they may not be aware of what to expect. Whilst I'm not a people pleaser I also don't want my children to disturb others so I was uncomfortable
    I can see what you're saying. I wouldn't feel threatened though, just awkward and uncomfortable. I also think people are generally far less likely to be confrontational or threatening or aggressive than likely so I wouldn't so worried about that. I would just be hyper aware of peeing somebody off and that makes me uncomfortable. I have to say I find the teenagers in there a bit weird. No way I would have wanted to go to a babies session when I was a teenager. The louder and darker the cinema, the better. The couple of dollars saving isn't worth the possible interruptions and noise IMO.

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    I would feel uncomfortable, not because of feeling like the people were sinister, but because my social anxiety would mean that I would be worried that my child would annoy the other people. I wouldn't be able to enjoy the movie myself, because I would be stressing about possibilities of what may happen if my kid were to make noise (would I get dirty looks, told to shut my child up, rude comments made that I could hear, etc). It's why I haven't and will never take my kids to the cinema until they are able to sit and quietly watch a movie, without getting distracted or fidgety. I couldn't handle the stress it would put me under.

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