Honestly I agree that there's not much he can do. I personally would be ok with interstate travel at that age but I do understand that sometimes something feels really...just *wrong* and it's really hard to articulate why. Unfortunately it's one of those things that is very hard to negotiate and compromise on, especially when separated.
But just because there's very little he can do stop it doesn't mean you have to be willing/available to meet them at the airport or to change your plans to do so. It's not your problem, after all 😇
At the end of the day it's up to him what he chooses. We don't know the case or the story. But I know a thing or two about family law and I can tell you that it is a joke. Pretty much nothing is enforceable you can even break court orders and just keep going in the court merry go round.
Trying to parent kids with someone you are no longer with is extremely difficult. And getting into arguements about these things just ends up affecting the kids more than anything, they are the ones that suffer while the parents bicker. There are things I am uncomfortable about that my ex does with kids and the other way around but we make it work by biting our tongues. There is a difference between doing something that puts the kids in real danger and doing something that I am uncomfortable with. If I was in your DH shoes I would not be cancelling kids holidays and would make alternate arrangements as difficult and frustrating as it may be. However I would let ex know how I feel and that this should not happen again. Maybe if you have an upcoming court date mention it so its placed in court orders etc.
But hey your life his kids do whatever you wanna do.
Your post puzzles me slightly. You ask whether she can go ahead with unaccompanied minor travel in the original post but then reply to a previous poster saying you know she can do it with only one signature. You also ask what your dh can do but then seem to be dismissing every comment or suggestion offered. I guess I'm just wondering whether you were looking to vent or were open to suggestions? I hope this doesn't come across as rude, I just wanted to clarify so you can get what you're looking for out of the thread.
Guess it was just frustation at yet another way the kids miss out because their mother refuses to be open and honest.
H came home 20 mins ago and said he had contacted local police/court and his advocate in relation to the kids. H's advocate has spoken to her 'person' (I don't think he is an advocate) and advised that the holiday should be cancelled.
Looks like ours will be too....
Always open to suggestions, but am just frustrated that we are yet again talking to a wall. But God forbid we differ from things slightly.
Just offering more info about the circumstances, but yes things are being dismissed as they don't suit.
Anyway, see post above. Things are pretty much sorted.
From your post it sounds to me like this is really about so much more than unaccompanied minors on a flight and the crux of the issue sounds more like an ongoing communication issue and lack of respect. It certainly does sound extremely inconsiderate of her to organise her holidays when she knew there was going to be a clash with your overseas travel dates.
Having said that, I would urge you to carefully consider withdrawing permission for the holiday. Unfortunately it will put the children in the middle and only cause them distress.
Are there any work arounds? Do you have family who could meet the children at the airport and care for them until you get back? Does the exwife have family who could do the same?
All her family are over there, H's family are away- hence why we booked this period away.
It's done now anyway. Honestly, I personally have no problem with the UM situation in theory- but the way she has gone about it is wrong, and noone could pick the kids up, which she knew.
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