I don't see the issue. I don't think you should be said anything so early on but what's done is done.
you need to get assertive and insist on making a time to sit down with the owners and work out a plan.
look realistically you're not going to be going on mat leave for another 7 months probably so from a day to day perspective, I don't see an issue.
they should continue to train you for the role they hired you for. when you go on mat leave, they find a mat leave replacement and then you come back. and they need to give you your contract ASAP.
if you don't stand up and get a handle on things then it'll just fizzle along and they'll probably guilt you into resigning or find some way to push you out.
take control and stop making excuses. you're pregnant, not dying. it's not the end of the world!
see, its starting already. they're discriminating against you by refusing to train you etc.
grow up and take the bull by the horns. 5 weeks pregnant is very early days, not being insensitive but it's no guarantee of anything so IMO they should be treating you like any non-pregnant employee.
stop facking about and making excuses. make a time and call a meeting and talk it through with them! you've really got nothing to lose so just do it!
I thought this site was supposed to be helpful friendly advice , not insulting and belittling people . Yes maybe I did tell them too early but I was being upfront and if I had said anything further on I still would have had the same treatment so it makes no difference . I guess you can't fully understand the situation unless your in it . Plus I never made out I was dying so I'm not sure what that us about .
Hi @beccy0412, firstly congratulations on your pregnancy.
Secondly, time to send an email to your boss (you said this is the only form of communication at the moment?) stating that you need to discuss things with them in person urgently.
Bring up the fact that you are still waiting on your contract, that you feel your training has stopped and you are being treated as an inconvenience. Also bring up what you heard re: there being no point as you will check out.
I don't see that you need to find a new job, just get assertive. You are entitled to a contract. You are entitled to privacy. You are entitled to have a life separate to work. You are entitled to expect training. You are entitled to be treated as a professional.
ETA: Did you actually hear the husband say this, or did the other staff member say he said it? If you heard it, press ahead and mention it. If you heard it from someone else (ie it is gossip) don't be specific and say something like "I have been told that your husband feels there is no point in training me further, which I find very unfair and discriminatory. Is there truth to this?"
Last edited by DT75; 16-11-2015 at 08:04.
Not everyone is confident enough to stand up for themselves when they feel the way the OP feels. I get your point but it's still harshly put.
E.g. "I have heard that you consider my training pointless. Is this true?"
No need to give away the source, but it needs to be addressed. You can also state ways in which you feel that this is how they are acting- i.e. email only communication, lack of contact with person training you, etc.
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