You are very right about kids being so different. My dd3 is almost 6wks old. At this age dd1 was sleeping 10-12hr stretches overnight. Dd2 was feeding 3hrly clockwork and dd3 does a 8hr stretch then a 3hr one.
No sleep training at all, just a solid bedtime routine and their personalities.
It is very disheartening when your baby wakes and ppl tell you that they baby sleeps so well. I know I used to feel like this till someone on this forum told me that babies waking overnight IS the biological NORM. That babies that are coerced to sleep thru when not ready is only going to cause grief to both parent and child. Babies and children will wake with hunger, sickness, teeth, nightmares, anxiety etc. It's how you respond to it that matters.
That's when I changed my attitude to parenting. I parent to what my kids need, whether overnight feeds at 11mths or a cuddle to get over a nightmare at 4yo. They don't stop needing me at a certain arbitrary age.
At the moment with this nasty chest cold I'm glad he's getting as many antibodies as possible from breastfeeding.
I mostly was just curious to know if the intervals themselves might increase. When he was smaller he used to do a four hour sleep first, then three hourly after that and if I can just get back to that I'd be happy. Four then three is seven hours of sleep with only one feed!!
Like we all say, it's not a problem until it's a problem and so far I'm doing ok.
Plus this is a little selfish but it's the best diet ever! I'm down from 95kgs at his birth to 76.9 at last count...
It's good that you don't see night waking as a problem. I was up feeding my Dd3 last night and it was just so precious. Just her and me.
On the solids note. I didn't start my girls till 6-6.5 mths and I'm keen to delay it till 7mths + for dd3 as I don't think too much too soon is good for my babies.
Every parent (regardless of what side of the fence they sit on) is affected by their own needs, personal views, culture and lifestyle when it comes to raising kids. Our decisions regarding everything from how to put bub to sleep to when to start solids are rarely based 100% on what the child 'needs.'
It's rare that a parent doesn't have their kids best interests at heart regardless of whether they co-sleep, formula feed, breastfeed, start solids at 4 months, start solids at 7 months, follow a routine, don't follow a routine.
Last edited by VicPark; 13-11-2015 at 15:04.
I said I parent to what my kids need vs parenting them to what other kids do.
So if my kids need me to hold their hand as they sleep- ok. If they need me to feed them overnight till 12+ mths - ok. If the need to hold them as they sleep (dd3 is currently on ne snoring but wakes instantly if I put her down)- ok.
I was encouraging @ScubaGal to parent HER child HER way.
Ds did do longer stretches alone, going from 3 hourly to 4 and 5. Then at 6 mo it all went downhill and he was waking anything up to 6x a night between 12-6am. No amount of solids (he eats like a horse)/crawling/day activities/day sleeps etc etc made a lick of difference to his night wakings.
At 9.5 mo I was exhausted and saw a sleep psych, she recommended night weaning so we made a plan and by 3/4 nights later ds was sleeping through. At 14mo he wakes once a night about 3 nights a week, and sleeps through the rest of the time. I still expect night wakings and am happy with how we are going now.
I think ultimately to reduce my number of wakings it'll mean weaning off some of those night feeds but we aren't ready for that just yet. I will ultimately have to wean sooner than I'd like so that I can have another IVF transfer so that's another reason I'm happy being a milk maid while I can.
...to be honest I could probably also try not feeding him sometimes when he wakes, I know there have been a handful of times I woke up to him nattering and thought "I'll get up in a sec" only to wake up again three hours later having accidentally skipped the feed and him having self soothed back to sleep but I do try every now and again and get the opposite result where he just ramps up to full blown awake and upset, so I mostly choose the path of least resistance and feed him as soon as he squawks just so the night goes easier. Feeding to sleep works so well it's hard not to use it and lately it's been helping him get longer day naps and a little nap for me.
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