Hi everyone, I have a 5.5 month old. He is a lovely and happy little boy most of the time, but still has common moments of crying where he is clearly overtired and won't wind down.
I don't have any routine in the day really, just get up about 7 for a feed, and breakfast about 8, lunch about 12, and tea about 5.30 (he has started solids about a month ago), and to bed somewhere between 7 and 8.
He sleeps well at night once he's down, only waking up for one feed and straight back to sleep. But in the day his feeds and sleeps are all over the place. Sometimes he sleeps for a few hours, but sometimes for 15 mins. When he has a short sleep like that, there is nothing I can do to make him sleep again. He just lays in the cot cooing to himself and kicking his legs around (he's usually happy when he wakes up). But sometimes within the hour he is after another sleep and grizzly, if u get him to sleep he may only sleep for another 15 mins.
Also some of his sleeps are in the ergo, some bed sharing with me if I'm sleepy, some in the car if I'm going out, and some in his cradle. I usually try to put him in his cradle first after a book and blinds closed and try to pat him to sleep, but usually I resort to feeding him to sleep, and if he wakes up later I either lay with him or put him in the ergo (which is a very common occurrence).
At night I always feed him to sleep (which is something I didn't mean to get into the habit of, I just planned to feed him 10 mins before bed but he always ended up falling asleep anyway, and now it is such a strong habit, but is so easy at night to get him to sleep (but so hard in public or put at family's house, he won't go to any other place but his bed easily at night... Usually anyway, sometimes I still get him out of bed and just sleep him in our bed with us)
Anyway, as you can see no structure to our day really, and the only things I can really rely on most of the time is feeding to sleep, and sleeping with us or in the ergo. I just don't know how to break these habits. (I'm not sure if feeding to sleep is a problem)
Is it bad that I don't have a routine? What are your routines for a 5.5 month old? How can I get one and do I need one? I've tried tizzy halls save our sleep routine, but my baby is so stubborn and wants what he wants when he wants it how he wants it. I am so condused. I sometimes feel like such a bad mum because I have been told I spoil him because I hardly ever leave him and in the way that I put him in the ergo. And also that it is such a bad thing that I feed him to sleep. I don't even know what's right anymore, but would like a lot more structure to our day and not have to feed him to sleep and be able to put him to bed easier, especially in the day. But on the other hand I love wearing him and dont like being seperate from him, I'm confused!!!!