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    Default Emotional 5 year old

    There really is not much to this thread bar a vent and hopefully some of you can relate - what is going on with my 5yo DD ?!?? She's turned into an emotional wreck with constant tears and tantrums. She's 6 soon and heading to school next year and I'm a little worried about her coping mechanisms.

    As a younger child she was always quite chilled out but now is brought to tears regularly.

    Last week a kinder friend said they couldn't be friends anymore because they were going to different schools - it was like she was physically wounded ! She's not that close with this child and has loads of other friends so whilst it wasn't the nicest thing, it's not the end of the world.

    Yesterday I forgot to bring a form back to hand to the teacher and she was inconsolable.

    Just before I wanted to take a picture of her and her sister smiling and she had a melt down.

    I like to think that over the years I've tried to build resilience in my kids, but everything seems to have gone out the window. Is it just how her personality has developed? How do I help her?

    Can anyone relate??

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    Hi, I think this is a normal part of development.

    I recall DSD going through it at 4.5/5 and lots of other kids I have looked after.

    You've just got to power through, unfortunately. Tantrums and meltdowns should have consequences, repeat "please don't whine, use your proper voice", etc.

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    The feelings to her are very valid and real. I would say the perceived overreaction is developmental. Have you tried to emphasise with her feelings? I wouldn't recommend dismissing them.

    Every stage is hard!!!

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    Absolutely normal. It depends on the child as to how you handle it- example, dd1 (8 years) will not listen to any reason while in one of her 'moods' so she gets sent to her room to calm down and then we talk about it. Dd2 will lose her sh!t at the drop of her hat over almost anything, but all it takes is a gentle "I can't understand what you are saying when you carry on like that, take a deep breath, calm down and tell me what's wrong" and its finished. Dd3 is a completely different story again.

    Eta- my dd1 is a very resilient kid and always had been. It takes a lot to get her emotional and not a lot phases her but she can throw a tantrum like nothing I have ever seen before. Dd2 on the other hand is and always has been a very sensitive soul and take things to heart far too easily (like me). Having said that, she has no issues being assertive and 'strong' (emotionally) at kindy, so she seems to just unleash at home.
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    Thanks so much for your input ladies - I think what I struggle most with is im very much of a 'get on with it' type personality so I struggle with for want of a better word - drama. But I guess that's my problem - I should validate her feelings and then we all move on.

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    Patience is so hard. I know inside I'm going COME ON FFS. Sometimes I'm better at it than other times.

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    Quote Originally Posted by PinkPink View Post
    Thanks so much for your input ladies - I think what I struggle most with is im very much of a 'get on with it' type personality so I struggle with for want of a better word - drama. But I guess that's my problem - I should validate her feelings and then we all move on.
    Even just commenting on it out loud can help- ie instead of walking away say "I can't understand you honey" first


 

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