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    Default Conceiving using donor sperm

    Hi!

    Sorry if this isn't the right thread to post in. I'm new around here.

    I'm considering using anonymous donor sperm so I can have a baby. I'm 38 in a few days, single and never been in a relationship (yes, true). I don't see myself finding anyone in the coming months/year and as my biological clock is ticking, it's time I start thinking about my options.

    I went to see a doctor at Monash IVF in Geelong last week and discussed donor sperm vs freezing vs IVF. Unfortunately IVF is way too expensive and freezing just as much.

    So it looks like donor is the way to go.

    I had the opportunity to ask questions at the end but when I left, I forgot to ask about the donor sperm. How does that work, like I mean picking a potential donor, ie hair colour, eye colour etc. Is that how it works?

    Also, I've noticed some posts looking for donor sperm on here. How does that work? Sorry if I sound ignorant, I have no idea what the process is!

    I've got request slips for bloods and an ultrasound to check for tubal patency (been quoted around the $600 mark).

    My parents have been blessed with two grandchildren by my brother and his wife and I was hoping to give them another grandchild. Dad is 80 and mum just turned 75, so they too are both getting on in their years.

    I'm possibly looking at starting the process next year as I'm currently on Roaccutane and have another three or so months left in the course and I've just had an Implanon inserted, just as a precaution.

    I haven't discussed this with my family as yet as 1) they'd probably be against it and 2) I'm still gathering information etc. I've only sought advice from a few friends and I know they won't tell anyone.

    I am happy to answer any questions you have.

    Thanks, Nessa.
    Last edited by Nessa77; 10-11-2015 at 13:05.

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    Hi,

    I haven't been with Monash however we used donor sperm through QFG (DH has very poor sperm quality).

    QFG had a donor program and you go to a counselling and info session before being approved. Once that happened we were given access to the donor register website to browse.

    The website had heaps of info on each donor. Physical appearance, education, interests, talents, temperament, medical history, family medical history (some for 20+ relatives), and an essay about why they donated. The American ones included a baby/toddler photo and an adult photo.

    The sperm was $1000 a vial and that does 1 cycle so we purchased 2. Our first ivf cycle has resulted in a pregnancy after years of failed cycles.

    For us a known donor or a random found online wasn't an option. It is not regulated, there is higher chance of getting false info or a part history. The thought of that person knowing who I was and wanting ongoing contact was just to worrying for us.

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    I'm having my first IUI on Wednesday with QFG. The donor website was really user friendly. You choose what you will be using it for (IUI needs a higher quality than IVF and ICSI) So there were 7 IUI suitable profiles to choose from when I chose.
    You could also search by nationality, eye colour and hair colour. My choice was pretty easy because there was only 1 Aussie donor available and his features seemed similar to my own. There were 4 American and 2 German donors too but the Aussie sperm was $600 while the American and European was $1000. The Aussie profile wasn't as detailed as the American donors but I think it still had enough info about his personality, health, appearance and family health history.

    When I decided on a donor I was looking for someone with similar features so that my child should look like me. I also chose someone whose family medical history didn't have the issues that my family does.

    I know others who weren't concerned with looks but chose based on the donors essays. Others just clicked with a certain profile or feature. The donors usually agree to have contact once the child turns 18 which I felt was important in case they have any questions later on.

    The process for using donor sperm was done in a few hours. I went in and saw the nurse who explained the IUI procedure. Then I saw their psychologist who asked a million questions about my expectations, my situation, what my family and friends think, how I will explain everything to my future child. Then I saw someone from the donor team. They explained the costs and testing they do on the donors. After you choose the donor they send it to the specialist so it's there for the IUI.

    After that I had to go back to my specialist for blood tests, ultrasounds and soon the IUI!

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    happy to help you donate if you want, Im an Aussie, 19 years old with blue eyes and brown hair, clean family health history and healthy contact me here if interested johnmay896

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    Hi Nessa, I seem like I am on a similar path to you, although a few tests ahead :-) it's all a little daunting. I am happy to compare notes if you want to pm me


 

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