Thanks for asking after me Mulzer! Can't stop worrying. I just don't know how many times I can do this pregnancy business! I just don't deal well with the anxiety and the sadness when it all goes pear shaped. Not to mention the effect it has on our relationship. He doesn't get it, doesn't know why I get so upset as he thinks it's not really a baby yet and we'll just keep going until we get a successful pregnancy. Sounds simple but to me it's not.
Anyway back pain is still there, dull and constant. I know it can be normal but I also know it may be a bad sign. In one way if it's going to end badly I'd rather it just happen now so I can have a few drinks at Christmas and process it. Better than months down the track. I wish there was some way to know. Even if I took a FRER it would still show some hcg anyway so it's pointless. I do have another BT tomorrow but won't get those results till Monday so nothing I can do but wait. My ob said it doesn't matter if you rest or not but I think I will try to as much as I can. My previous MC's I continued to go to the gym and didn't change a thing so this time I might just take the opportunity of the holidays to chill out.
So Mulzer, you had this pain for a week then it went away?
I know you know the flip side of the coin when it's not good news. I've had lower back pain with all my mc's. But it is part of a lot of healthy pregnancies so I don't want to get you down.
I totally understand about if it's over just get it over with. That's how I felt last month.
When was the last time you took a test?? Have you had any bleeding? And what was your hcg at last test?
I have everything crossed for you.
My dh doesn't get the loss side of things either. I told him yesterday that I was pregnant again and he just said why do I do it to myself and test so early. I couldn't not know if there was a person growing inside me.
So sorry to confuse you guys, I was scanning the posts too quickly!
Finally in bed, been a full on evening and now DS has an earache and is in bed with me. Hoping the nurofen kicks in soon.
Back pain still there. Have had no rest though so hope it is gone in the morning provided I'm not up all night with DS.
I last did a test Monday arvo/evening, line was strong and dark. I had bloods done that same day. And next lot tomorrow. Ob wanted them three days apart and I'm to call Monday (his next working day) to check they've doubled enough. I've not had any bleeding so far. I just hope I get through this pregnancy!!
Why don't DH's get it?? I guess it's because they don't have that little person growing inside them, maybe they'd feel different if they experienced it. I just find DH so dismissive, he didn't even cringe watching me inject clexane the first night, but omg if that were him having daily needles I'd never hear the end of it!
All he cares about is when we are having sex next!
Thanks for listening to me vent!
Lil Smurfy (24-12-2015)
Vent away @basilmint! 😊
My DP doesn't get things either. We haven't had a loss so I can't begin to appreciate how sad and painful that must be. But I'm finding the TTC journey is so different for DP than it is for me. He thinks I'm overthinking and taking things too seriously because I started prenatal vitamins as soon as we decided to TTC, I bought some books and started reading up in stuff, and I asked my GP to check my progesterone and ovarian reserve after 2 months of TTC. He thinks I'm putting too much pressure on myself. But this is a man who hasn't been to a GP for years and takes his good health for granted. I think good health is something to take seriously and invest in. I think it's just good sense to take prenatal vitamins if you're TTC. And I'm 37 with a history of polycystic ovaries, so if there's anything that's not working as it should, I want to know right away so we can consider all the options and get some help early. Same with POAS early. We're only planning on having one baby, so when it happens I want to know right away so I can enjoy every moment of being pregnant. And if I get a BFN, I can get over it, stop fretting and look ahead to next month. I don't think any of this will be serious or real for DP until he sees our baby on an ultrasound or feels it kick or maybe even until it's born.
BFN on FRER for me tonight. AF not due til 29th so I guess we will see what happens. Feeling pessimistic
AF due on 3rd Jan... Should I test earlier or be patient 😳
My body is teasing me. Negative tests but AF is late. I am usually regular to the day. Period like cramps. I had a MC in Oct so don't know my body too well now. Until I get AF I have hope.
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