Location. 5min vs 30 min is massive especially when you have to get all the kids in the car etc.
It adds so much stress and time to the trip.
We were considering buying a house that would put us 25 min away from friends and decided against it because of that.
We have had friends who moved 1/2 hr away and we don't see much of them anymore
Used to catch up at the drop of a hat a couple of times a week. Now it's once every 2d month if that and we need to schedule which is always a bit difficult with nap time etc.
Also to us a 3bed is perfect size for a family of 5 so I don't mind smaller spaces 😊