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    when my children were teenagers and into sports every Saturday, I had a housekeeper. I paid her $40 for three hours work once a week, so I had my bathrooms and floors cleaned weekly. I was never one for doing rosters, and then nagging them to do the chores. I tried a pocket money deal, but that didn't work. I basically did all the chores, but they were responsible for their own stuff. If their clothes were not in the laundry they didn't get washed. If they wanted to change their sheets that was their job, to strip the bed and remake it. If they wanted to be taken somewhere or do something that impacted my time, they had to help me do what I wanted done first. so if they were going to be going to a friends place, I had washing to do first, they helped with the washing. that sort of thing. For me, it was just easier to do what I wanted to do, and let them be. they are all adults now, and quite capable of looking after their own houses, so they have turned out just fine. marie.

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    DS is almost 16 does whatever I ask him to do. His main chore is to dry and put away the dishes every day (I wash them) but he helps out with so much more as required; all I have to say is "time to do a general tidy up, I'll do the kitchen and toilet, can you please tidy the lounge and bathroom?" and we get it done together really quickly. He's an amazing help with his little sister, too. He will often take her for half an hour while I have a bath or am cooking dinner. He rarely complains about helping out. He will vacuum if I ask and even cooked spaghetti from scratch for our dinner this week as I wasn't feeling well.
    He also puts the groceries away for me and empties rubbish and takes out the bins.
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    Thank you so much for all the replies! It's reassuring to know that I'm not the only one struggling with this!

    And yes my kids are also (sometimes) good at their chores, but the general slobbiness is always the same. Grrr....

    Oh well, I will just keep on at them and hopefully by the time they are adults they will know how to put dirty clothes in the dirty clothes hamper.

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    just on the last sentence there, cmf. if they didn't put the dirty clothes into the laundry, the clothes were not washed. they only had to wear a dirty sports uniform or hand wash something, and they learnt that lesson. with four children and two adults, and sometimes an extra exchange student, I had enough washing to do. marie.

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    my older kids are expected to keep there rooms pretty tidy with no rubbish in there, put all there washing in the correct washing baskets ( I have a system) Plus help here and there when requested without whinging about it.

    I would say 90% of the time they do it sometimes I friendly reminder is needed, but occasionally they get a bit sloppy and they lose wifi privileges and soon remember what is expected :-)

    I'm introducing a new thing for them which will be every Sunday they vacuum their own rooms :-)


 

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