For those with older kids (mid primary and over) only...
How much do your kids do around the house? In regards to cleaning up after themselves, and doing houseworky type stuff.
Do they meet your expectations of what jobs they need to do? Or is there always stuff that was supposed to be done but wasn't?
And most importantly, do they do jobs without being nagged incessantly? Or asked once or twice? Or do they do them without you even having to ask?
Honestly this is the most challenging aspect in my life atm. I am SO freaking over it, and have ranted and raved at them many times recently about it (not my best moment, but that's just how over it I am!). I feel like a slave in my own house.
I guess it doesn't help that I am a single mum, so I don't have another responsible adult to share housework with, or share parenting with. It's all me, 100% of the time, so I guess I just get exhausted of it. But for goodness sake it truly isn't that hard to not drop dirty clothes where you stand and just leave them there, or to put rubbish in the bin and not the floor, or to unpack your freaking lunchbox. I am not even at the point of getting them to do 'housework' at the moment really, all I want is for them to clean up their own cr@p. THEN we will work on sharing housework.
But I guess what I want to know is, am I expecting too much? How does this all work in other households? I know I can be quite strict with my kids sometimes, and everyone always says they are 'such good kids' etc, but surely it is acceptable for me to expect them to help keep a tidy house? Is it?
BTW I have tried all manners of tips, tricks, routines, communication styles, rewards, punishments etc etc etc to get them to help out. Nothing ever sticks for long.
Anyone care to share?
And please, no stories about how your adorable little 4yo loves to help mumma do the dishes. My kids used to be great at helping, when they were little! For some reason we go backwards with the helping as they get older. I swear tweenagers are a whole different species! Give me a toddler any day!