Understanding is not always met I am afraid. Sometimes it makes situations harder because you know what your child does, isn't completely meant, or they don't have the whole sense of understanding on a lot of things, buuuut not everyone gets that.
I am at a point where I hate going anywhere with Ds2, because of what happens. We have never had a major breakdown in public with him before, but his actions can have people annoyed. For example he hates small spaces, so shopping centres, aisles, people with trolleys he will sook because he finds it overwhelming. I don't shop with him unless it's absolutely necessary.
But on the other end of things, he loves open spaces. He loves the freedom of exploration.
So going to our dr surgery with big open waiting room, with adjoining halways, seems like a massive playground for him.
Naturally trying to keep him one place is challenging because he wants to run. No gadget will keep him still, there is too much for him to see.
I have had people look at me with disbelief and ask me to restrain my child. But then I might have 1 person in an entire room that gets what I am trying to do with him, and offers me a smile and maybe some words of encouragement.
People tell me to take that energy of his to a playground. It's not the playground he wants, its the open fields, so parties at indoor playgrounds, parks, usually is me chasing him around making sure he is not doing anything he shouldn't. Because he is an oral explorer, going to indoor playgrounds means stealing food and stuff off other peoples tables, running into the canteen/kitchens they have there. It's embarrassing as hell.
Going to parks. I have literally ran many kilometres of open parks, because he wants to just run. Kids are playing together and he somewhere else entirely.
Doesn't make me very good as I want to be able to do what the other parents do and chat to each other and make connections and friendships, but instead I am chasing my child who is in sensory overload....
Ds1 has his quirks too but thankfully he is doing better now. He has reached the whinging stage. His voice could make ears bleed lol.