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    I have 3 daughters and to be honest it terrifies me that one of them might marry into a horrible family. I just don't get it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I have 3 daughters and to be honest it terrifies me that one of them might marry into a horrible family. I just don't get it.
    The fear is so real. Dds old boyfriend family were the nastiest and craziest pieces of dog poo.

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    It's my fear too Sonja! The one thing I'm going to tell my 4 girls when they are old enough is to make sure you know your boyfriends family well enough before you settle down and have children because it could make or break your relationship.
    I can't wait to be a grandmother and in law, after dealing with ours, I no exactly what not to do!

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    I'd never even thought about that @Sonja! I've thought often about how I'll make sure I'm a great MIL, but hadn't thought about my children marrying into sucky families...

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    I think about it all the time. Without dragging past things up some of the cruelty I see displayed on this forum towards other mums makes me despair to be honest as I worry if one of my kids marries one of their kids that person will become the MIL!!! Obviously it's unlikely but it just shows how common it is.

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    Default Dealing with ILs (Long, sorry)

    I have to preface this with: I may be projecting so take what I say with a grain of salt!

    I am sooo sick of family believing they have some divine right to a relationship with children - grandchildren or Nieces or nephews. If you disrespect that child's parent you are owed nothing. You are certainly not owed time in that parents home.

    Tell your DH your expectations. Get him on board. And be polite to them when you can't avoid them - family events or whatever. But other than that, you owe these horrible people nothing. Do not leave your own home so they can come over.

    If they're horrible to you, I'm not sure what kind of influence they'll be on your children.

    Set your boundaries and if they challenge it "wahhh it's because he doesn't know us". Cooly and calmly say "I wonder why that is" and move on.

    The whole "because it's faaaaammmmily" Sh!ts me to tears!!! But as I said, I may be projecting!

    edited for embarrassing devine divine spelling error !
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    Yeah I'm totally with you on that one @GucciDahling! I've said to DH that I don't care who they are, if my family had done the same thing I'd cut them out too. I don't think anyone should have to put up with being treated like cr@p.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I think about it all the time. Without dragging past things up some of the cruelty I see displayed on this forum towards other mums makes me despair to be honest as I worry if one of my kids marries one of their kids that person will become the MIL!!! Obviously it's unlikely but it just shows how common it is.
    I'm the total opposite. This forum has somewhat restored my faith in society. The level of support and encouragement shown to basically strangers is truly heartwarming.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I think about it all the time. Without dragging past things up some of the cruelty I see displayed on this forum towards other mums makes me despair to be honest as I worry if one of my kids marries one of their kids that person will become the MIL!!! Obviously it's unlikely but it just shows how common it is.
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    I'm the total opposite. This forum has somewhat restored my faith in society. The level of support and encouragement shown to basically strangers is truly heartwarming.
    I've seen both sides of this coin on here. Some days this place makes me lose my faith in humanity, and other days it makes me feel like there's still so much good in the world.

    BH can be a fickle friend

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    Quote Originally Posted by just her chameleon View Post
    I'm the total opposite. This forum has somewhat restored my faith in society. The level of support and encouragement shown to basically strangers is truly heartwarming.
    I'm a glass half full kind of person. I always expect the best of strangers so yes I agree people's support on here is amazing. But the judgment and vitriol is also memorable.


 

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