So DH(or is just h at the minute!) and I are on rocky ground at the moment - well not just the moment from the end of last year. I let things and made allowances as an immediate family member was terminally ill and has since passed away(more than 6 months ago now). I mean I sucked it up because well he wasn't hitting me(I'm almost certain he never would - and I'm only saying almost as IMO anyone has the potential to lose their cool)
So over 6 months has passed and things are still not good. He's refused point blank to go back to marriage counselling which helped 2 or 3 years ago. At points I tell him that unless it has to do with dd I'm not interested in taking to him(these instances are for a few hours max)
when I try to resolve things he accuses me of shouting - it doesn't matter if I'm not raising my voice as far as he's concerned anything he doesn't want to hear is deemed shouting(he has admitted this in one conversation).
Wow where do I begin?
The whole house has been ill and on sat when he took dd to the movies I headed off to masters to get paint and mould cleaner and other home essentials to fix one of our bathrooms that doesn't have an extractor fan(we will get one)
So instead of staying at home I decided to be proactive(hadn't said to dh I was going to do it). So I do a few other errands and wait for him in the car so he can help me bring the stuff in(under doctors orders not to carry anything heavy, used a trolley at the shop). So to cut a long story short(well shorter) he steps in dog mess and traipses it all through the house. I clean it up and he refuses to say thank you because wait for it - it's my fault because of he wasn't helping me it wouldn't have happened!!! Poor dd witnesses the whole thing And thanks me herself! Bless her
lots has happened between them and tonight but what's left me feeling really peeved is he cooked dinner for dd and himself(knowing it was something I don't eat) and left me to fend for myself. Yep I'd be peeved if it was just that but what makes it worse is that I'm drowning in work and am working from home tonight to meet a deadline. I need to present at a 9 am meeting! The whole of November is just crazy!
We also went to visit family and he told me to shut up in front of my parents which as I'm sure you can imagine I was not too impressed by- he has since apologised after I called him on it. He's called me lazy allegedly to motivate me into doing more. The list goes on...
what can I do? Is it undestandable for me to be peeved? thanks in advance