I just want to say, please dont beat yourself up about all the 'bad habits' you feel you have made. really babies are small for such a short time, and really there aren't too many adults who cant get to sleep without mums help. you have other people in the house, so that makes for a different dynamic. relax and go with the flow until the visitors leave, and then you will be able to sort out what works best for you and bub. try to think of this as just a short phase, and soon your toddler will be able to be quite, and bub will sort out his own routine. hugs, marie.