Ok I've often contributed to sleep threads and am definitely pro cc but my baby is now 4 months old so too young to do cc but I'm totally destroyed right now. I need some help on how to make it through the next couple of months until I can do some training to sort out the bad sleep associations my baby has made.
So I know full well that all the problems are self inflicted but i honestly don't know how I could have done things differently. I've been working so hard since baby was 8 weeks old to get him to self settle and things were going so well but at 4 months he seemed to hit a sleep regression and now things are horrendous. My typical night is as follows:-
Bath and bed routine at 6.30-7pm. Some nights will settle quickly, others involve 20-30 mins of piercing screaming if he's overtired. Always have to hold to put to sleep then transfer to cot.
Usually wakes a few times between 7-10 and needs picking up to settle.
From 10pm onwards wakes every hour thrashing around cot and doesn't settle with dummy, holding etc and I end up feeding him to avoid full blown meltdown which can happen very quickly. Doesn't even settle if next to me in bed, I have to hold him until he's asleep then after putting him down he will wake about 5 mins later.
At first I thought the unsettled behaviour was due to me trying to transition out of swaddle but now I've put him back in the swaddle and it's not stopped the wakings. I'm now realising that the only time he is relaxed is when he's lying on me and during the day that's the only way I get him to nap. I know it's wrong but when I've only got a 2 hour window while my toddler is asleep to get baby to have a decent sleep it's hard not to give in and hold him after putting him in and out of the cot repeatedly and having him sleep for 15-20 mins at a time. When my toddler is awake it's totally impossible to try and resettle as he will be just about asleep and ready to transfer to cot then my toddler will come crashing in the room or shout loudly (have tried closing door but then he cries outside door). I'm at the stage now where I have to give up so then the baby doesn't get a nap, gets overtired and is then hysterical during the day. He won't sleep in the pram only in the carrier so most days I have to just walk around for hours with the toddler stuck in the pushchair so I can give the baby some sleep.
As I've said I know I've creating these problems but how do other people manage to get baby's that sleep even when they carry them, feed to sleep etc?! I'm just at breaking point with the sleep deprivation as I just don't get any opportunity to recover. Because my dh can do more things with the toddler to help it means he hasn't spent much time with the baby so it seems that I'm the only one who can settle him leaving me feeling very trapped.
I know it's a long shot but any advice? Has anyone done cc younger than 6 months?