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    Quote Originally Posted by M'LadyEm View Post
    How is that extreme? Many people abstain from alcohol while TTC. I didn't drink at my wedding because I chose not to. Is that extreme too? There definitely is a culture in Australia of drinking. I see it all the time, not just with the women I care for, but with the nurses and midwives I work with. I swear to god many a nurse or midwife are functioning alcoholics.

    Part of our antenatal eduction at our antenatal clinic appointments is around alcohol consumption in pregnancy. From the booking in appointment we ask questions about alcohol consumption pre conception, post conception but before finding out about the pregnancy AND once pregnancy confirmed. At this stage we inform women that there is no known safe level of alcohol in pregnancy and the recommendations are to abstain completely. If anyone continues to drink they are recommended to attend the specialized drug (illegal and cigarettes) and alcohol clinic and then asked at every antenatal appointment how many drinks they've consumed since their last appointment and with focus on the same message of no known safe level. Frankly it blows my mind that so many people still drink during pregnancy. I also find it hard to believe that so many people don't seem to know about the risks of alcohol and fetal alcohol syndrome. Maybe my view is clouded because I'm well educated on the subject and I'm not the average joe in this area, but I'm surprised each and every time I meet someone who claims they didn't know. I even had this argument with my sister when she was pregnant as she was also of the mindset that the occasional beer was ok and nothing I said would change her mind.
    it's extreme in that you don't know how long the whole ttc process will take and to me, it's a bit confining to expect someone to live like a monk just because they MIGHT be pregnant. I guess we all sit at different parts of the spectrum. since getting pregnant I've abstained totally and don't miss if. I've had a couple of sips here and there of dh's wine if he has one but that's rare and I've never sat down with my own glass. I just don't feel drinking is compatible to growing a human inside me.

    but before I was pregnant, I would consume moderately. I'm not putting my life on hold for a maybe bfp. once I got the bfp, I didn't drink again.

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    1-2 glasses of wine a day when pregnant would be plain stupid. I'm talking about 1-2 a week.

    And I know many will say why bother. Because I enjoy it. And there isn't a heck of a lot I do enjoy when pregnant.

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    I don't drink alcohol, and I'm a solo mother by choice.

    BUT if I drank alcohol, and had a partner, he had bloody well better abstain with me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    Well I'll out myself. I drank alcohol through all of my pregnancies. Only 1-2 a week. But I did it and I never hid it nor am I ashamed of myself.

    I am incredibly well educated with a high IQ. Judge away. I have 4 very healthy children 2 of which are borderline geniuses.

    Not everyone who does it is stupid or clueless. 7 a day = a moron irregardless of pregnancy.
    Me too.

    I have had odd glasses of wine thru all my pregnancies.

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    It's so sad that FAS-D is not more widely known about. I didn't hear about it until I was working in the foster care sector about 7 years ago as a support worker for foster carers. One of my foster families were looking after twins who had FAS-D. The struggles that these 2 little ones went through even when they were just days old was heart breaking. The continual therapies and supports and extra help they will need for life were something these amazing carers took on and strived to ensure these 2 children received the best possible after the poor start to life that was inflicted on them by their mother.


    I just hope that more people are made aware of this, and how dangerous drinking while pregnant is. 9 months without alcohol isn't the worst thing to go through for the sake of your child.

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    Quote Originally Posted by turquoisecoast View Post
    it's extreme in that you don't know how long the whole ttc process will take and to me, it's a bit confining to expect someone to live like a monk just because they MIGHT be pregnant. I guess we all sit at different parts of the spectrum. since getting pregnant I've abstained totally and don't miss if. I've had a couple of sips here and there of dh's wine if he has one but that's rare and I've never sat down with my own glass. I just don't feel drinking is compatible to growing a human inside me.

    but before I was pregnant, I would consume moderately. I'm not putting my life on hold for a maybe bfp. once I got the bfp, I didn't drink again.
    No one said you had to abstain for potentially years. Just that this is what one person decided to do. This last time we ttc for over 3 years. I would drink my reds until around 6po then by 13 14 dpo I would either get AF or a BFP. I found a middle ground where I still lived my life but didn't drink after possible conception.

    I will add that I'm aware that in those early days the baby isn't connected via a placenta therefore drinking wouldn't hurt it. It was my own personal decision. I don't think 1 or 2 drinks a week would be harmful. I was just so paranoid I didn't want to chance it.

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    Something about people sprouting their own intelligence makes me a little uncomfortable regardless of what side of the fence they sit on. Maybe that's a cultural thing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by VicPark View Post
    Something about people sprouting their own intelligence makes me a little uncomfortable regardless of what side of the fence they sit on. Maybe that's a cultural thing.
    Why does it make you uncomfortable? Genuine question....

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    I don't think abstaining from drinking when TTC or not really matters. Everyone makes choices that only affects them during that time.

    It's the fact that no one can really safely say that alcohol is safe any time during pregnancy. And the effect of the that can cause issues with the baby.
    I just don't see why anyone would want to take that risk. Sorry. .I just don't.
    And I love some wine. .and desperately wanted to drink still in pregnancy. ..towards the end I really wanted a drink and took a couple of sips of my DHs drink. And I even think that was wrong.
    Trying to raise a child with special needs is really hard work. ...I would think no one would want to take the risk that could potentially happen.

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    Lol I missed wine so much. Much more than ciggies


 

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