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    We don't include Santa, because, well, we just don't.

    Christmas is still wonderful and amazing and magical and special and it's focus for us is family, which I feel, for us, is enhanced without the rest of the shenanigans. We also, as a non-religious household, still tell the story of Saint Nicholas, just not the modern, commercialised version of Santa.

    It works for us, our children have *never* gone on to "spoil" things for other children, either. We remind them every year that each family is different in their celebrations, and that some children believe that Santa is real and that he is the one that brings them presents, and it is not their place to say otherwise. And they never have. They have *lots* of young cousins who all include Santa, and our combined Christmases have always been amazing.

    If you don't think Santa is for your family, then you don't have to include him if you don't want to, and your children won't feel as though they are missing out - at least, my 4 certainly don't

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    I miss not having Santa with my 2. I loved the lead up to Santa and then Christmas Eve.. It's so much fun. I wish my 2 weren't adults!! I want my little people back

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    I must be the only parent completely comfortable lying to their kids.

    Mermaids, fairies at the bottom of the garden, chocolate is illegal until you're a mummy 😎

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sonja View Post
    I must be the only parent completely comfortable lying to their kids.

    Mermaids, fairies at the bottom of the garden, chocolate is illegal until you're a mummy 😎
    LOL. Luckily you're not! I'd be out of business if people didn't believe in fairies!

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    I've never begrudged my parents for making me believe Santa was real so I plan on giving that same magic to my kids in the future. It is commercialised in a sense but it's also a lot of fun and who am I to deny kids of what I had growing up? It was exciting and a wonderful time of year. I know people who didn't have that as kids and they have said they felt excluded from the norm which is kinda sad! It would be so hard to have the majority of kiddies around you excited for Santa and all things linked (love Christmas carols) and for you to be the one going "yeah we don't do Santa". When they are old enough they will figure it out.. As I got older I started to join in with the adults and tried to help create the magic for the younger ones in the family. I love Christmas! My favourite time of year and something very special in my family. It's about bringing joy and fun into our lives. That's just my opinion though 😊

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    There is probably a 3-4 year window where Christmas can be the most magical time ever believing in Santa. Childhood gets robbed from kids far to early these days so I will be making this truly magical and let the spirit of Christmas come alive for his childhood.

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    Haven't read through yet but, I'm currently preg with our first. We've always said that we will still celebrate Christmas as normal but mum and dad are Santa. So Santa will come but our kids will know it's us. Seems silly to the tradition of Santa we lie and say some old guy in a red suits sneaks in our house and gives presents to kids...

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    We do the santa thing. Kids are only kids for so long then they grow up and have to deal with reality like you do when you're an adult and teenager. I don't lie to my kids about every day stuffbut I don't think they have to grow up so soon. I think kids should have some imagination and experience the magic in childhood.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Frankenmum View Post


    I guess the things I don't like are:
    - I don't feel comfortable with lying to DS.
    - I don't like that with Santa the focus is all on receiving gifts. I don't want xmas to be about that for us.
    - I don't like the whole 'naughty & nice' list thing. I don't want to threaten/bribe my child to behave.

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    1) I don't feel like I am lying. I never speak about Santa as though I know about it, I've read stories to them about Santa and when they ask questions about him, I usually say `what do you think'. So I don't feel like I have created the myth, rather we are reading about Santa the story? My son has asked me before if Santa is real and I just say you believe what you want to believe.

    2) Gifts arent the sole point of Christmas but a big part, and I am actually OK with that. I make a conscious effort to involve the kids in charitable type things at Christmas, picking gifts for kids for the local neighbourhood Centre and talking about what presents they would like to give to others, so the conversations are not just about receiving, but also a lot about giving.

    3) I've never mentioned a word about naughty or nice for Santa or anything like that.I dislike the Elf on a Shelf watching for good behaviour etc It's not even a conversation we have.

    Good luck with your decision OP

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    We never had Santa, the Easter bunny or the tooth fairy. I remember from a very young age asking my mum if Santa was real. She told us all 'I won't ever lie to you about anything, I want you to always trust what I say so I'm not going to start by telling you Santa exists'. I respect her wholeheartedly for that and have always had a great sense of security in my relationship with my parents and certainly never felt like I missed out on any magic.

    DP and I won't be telling our kids that Santa etc. are real. I want my kids to be imaginative and feel like there is magic all around them but I don't feel comfortable telling them lies, even little white ones.

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