Hello wise parents
I am a blessed FTM with a 12 week old baby and I have to say the whole routine thing is really daunting and I am becoming a bit frazzled by it! I try to follow the eat-play-sleep order of things, but how do you cope with a daytime catnapper who hasn't read the rules?? e.g. Lucy is EBF every 3 hours approx, and can only manage a wake time of about an hour, so say if I feed at 7am, then play, then put her down at 8am she will often wake at 8:45. Sometimes I can resettle her, if I can't (most times!) I get her up and then might put her down again in 30 mins... so my eat-play-sleep will sometimes end up eat-play-sleep-play-sleep-eat.... and then if the timing goes really out of whack, she can be super sleepy when she's due for her next feed! So then it turns into eat-play-sleep-play-eat-sleep.
We have a bedtime routine of bath-lullaby-feed-sleep and she is pretty good overnight, going down at 7ish and then only waking once or twice a night for a feed so I feel like that is going ok, it's just daytimes that frazzle me!
Some of the books and websites make me feel like I am damaging my child by not doing things in a consistent order!! (do babies really thrive on knowing what is going to happen next?? Can they even cognitively understand that at 12 weeks?!). Would really value hearing your experiences/advice and when my cherub might start becoming a bit more scheduled - or is that just a pipe dream that works in theory but not in practice??