I can't believe how judgemental some people are being. Parenting is hard enough as it is & I wish women were more supportive of each other, even when people make different choices from one another.
I truly believe it is hard on both sides & it's tricky when a relationship changes once a baby comes along. It makes both people uncertain & adjusting to & finding new roles can be difficult too.
I know DH & I are still adjusting since having our dd & we probably will be for quite some time yet.
I'm very lucky to have a while off work while he is back doing full time shift work.
I know long his days can be & are draining & I don't want to be going to work. I've gotten cranky when I've had an incredibly long day with a cranky baby & I get a text from him saying he's going to the gym after work or sometimes he gets home & doesn't want to do much after a long day at work. But he is a parent just as much as I am & that's a conversation we've recently had which surprisingly went down pretty good & we were able to have a good chat about it. He saw my side if I asked him how he would feel if the roles were reversed & he spent all day with a cranky baby & doing housework.
Looking after a child no matter what age can be difficult & the day just goes by so fast. Even before we had a baby & I had a day off the day flew by & was gone before I knew it! So it only takes having to duck up town to do a few things like food shopping to turn into an hour or two & some cleaning & day is over.
I think it's great that you're able to have dd in day care during the week. I have a couple of friends who do the same thing too. It's great for the kids to socialise & keeps their routine the same.
It's hard sometimes staying at home. Sometimes I get a little jealous that DH goes to work, can sit in the quiet & have a coffee & can go out to lunch if he wishes without any kids. Being at home you never get a break, a lunch time or a quiet drive to/from work without the kids & I think it's easy for partners to forget this.
And the last thing I want to say is, those days would go by so quickly just doing errands & housework. I really hope you are able to use one of the days to do something for yourself because you deserve it And if anyone wants to say anything negative about that I would say they're jealous.
FTM, I hope you can talk to your DH about it. It's hard when feeling like he doesn't appreciate things or takes you for granted. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about daycare.